Well, here are the opinions of one rank amateur:
The idea behind setting up for your weight is to get the suspension in it's ideal travel range during normal riding situations.
First, consider spring rate and preload. The danger of having it set up too soft is that under normal conditions you might have the suspension too far compressed. The side effect of this is that a system that is too far compressed is normally operating outside of its optimal range. It has reduced overall travel, and if it is operating near it's limits, it probably isn't as efficient as it could be. The reason this is undesirable is that a larger than expected bump could (more easily) cause the suspension to bottom, which in turn could cause unstable or dangerous handling.
For the damping settings, there is a lot of variablity in setup, and it generally has less to do with rider wieght than spring rate and preload do. There is no one ideal setting for any rider. In fact, many things play into the ideal setup, such as tires, road conditions, and rider preferences.
For the track (especially the pros), they have different setups for each track. they have the time and resources to find that ideal (or at least try) for each situation. For the street, you want to find that happy medium that gives you good performance for most of the roads and conditions you'll encounter.
It sounds like you probably have preload (and possibly spring weight) set according to your wieght, but may not be happy with damping settings.
You can tinker from here to get what you are after, but... write down what the current settings are so you'll have Hare's setup (and the fatory setup) to use as baselines. Then the best thing to do is make single small adjustments and write down your changes so you can roll them back if you aren't happy with the results.
Also, I would call them and explain the situation to them. Ask them what they think you should adjust to get a little softer ride. I've heard they are really cool, so I'm sure they'll want to help you get the setup you are after.