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The BARF mental health thread

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Advise like "go do something you enjoy" is what keeps people from discussing mental health issues.
What if you can't enjoy anything? Then what, professor?
 
If you want a thread that offers just grousing about one’s problems and offers no suggestions for improving one’s life, then I’m out of here.
 
And two wheel tramp, you did exactly what i did. You said that one of the things that works for you is pedaling to Ocean beach. How is that any different from what I said?
 
And if one is expected to discuss mental health issues and avoid talking about potential solutions, what is the point?
 
ST Guy said:
And two wheel tramp, you did exactly what i did. You said that one of the things that works for you is pedaling to Ocean beach. How is that any different from what I said?
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No, actually, if you read what I wrote, I said "patting my chest and transporting myself", as in using mental imagery to go to a place that is happy and safe for me. I am not telling anyone what to do, but rather speaking to what has worked for me and what my therapist and I have come up with together. You have come in here, heavy-handed with "I don't know what you are going through, but just do these three easy steps, and all will be fine." The way you are delivering your content is the problem.


Also, I thought you said you were out of here. I would like you to honor that.
 
ST Guy said:
Take a walk or bicycle ride around your neighborhood. Meditate for 5 minutes. Sit and watch the day fade into night. Watch a TV program you enjoy. Reflect on something good that happened in your life. It doesn’t take much effort.
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Are you fucking kidding me? You're talking about "stress management". Why must you dominate a thread about a subject that you already claimed you don't suffer from.
Dude, self-awareness called... but there was no answer.
 
All I said was what has worked for me. Exactly as you said what has worked for you.

Some of you have completely misinterpreted what I said.
 
And managing stress is a key component of keeping one’s mental health on an even keel.
 
ST Guy said:
All I said was what has worked for me. Exactly as you said what has worked for you.

Some of you have completely misinterpreted what I said.
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ST Guy said:
All I said was what has worked for me. Exactly as you said what has worked for you.

Some of you have completely misinterpreted what I said.
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Nobody is misinterpreting anything. I went through your history because I wanted to make sure you were the guy that hates his first wife. I never found that crazy woman-supporting thread that you derailed with your diatribe about her. But what I did find was multiple instances of you giving advice and telling people how to solve their problems. I also found where you said you were depressed when your first wife cheated on you, which makes me ask "Are you sure you've never dealt with mental health issues?"

My OG mend has started.

I did not know on the arithritis. Good to know. I blame weekend libation and all consumption on the NFL and AFM. :laughing Maybe this is the moment where zero booze is the new world order for me. :afm199
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Thanks Martin. I went through similar life adjustment in 1989 / 90. I am NOT a friend of the first wife and avoid even having to see her. I barely got through it without going bankrupt. That was different. Younger, health was not an issue and honestly becoming single at 31 ended up being a...
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Validation, understanding, and a willingness to listen. That's what you can do for someone suffering from mental health issues. They/ we don't need your condescending BS, nor do we need to know "what works for you" when you state you have no experience in the matter. Who the fuck are you and how are you qualified to give advice to anyone in this regard?

If you can't just provide validation and support, than yes please for everyone's mental health, please ignore this thread.
 
Melissa said:
oh well, did not work for too long.
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I'm disappointed. I wanted this to work and be a good spot to discuss things.

Back on track, for those looking for a therapist, openpathcollective.org is pretty damn rad. You can search by state and specialty. That's how i found someone who is licensed in Oregon and California so we can hold sessions in either state.
 
I suffer with depression. Mostly the whole seasonal thing which manifests itself in Spring. This year wasn't too bad, but it got me. I don't have an answer. I don't really know what works for me. I show it through anger, which then affects my relationships, which then makes me more depressed because I am being an asshole, and it's a vicious cycle.

Sure, riding my mountain bike is my happy place. And the exercise helps for sure. But I also have to be open to changing my attitude, and sometimes, I just want to wallow in my pit of despair.
 
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Nobody is misinterpreting anything. I went through your history because I wanted to make sure you were the guy that hates his first wife. I never found that crazy woman-supporting thread that you derailed with your diatribe about her. But what I did find was multiple instances of you giving advice and telling people how to solve their problems. I also found where you said you were depressed when your first wife cheated on you, which makes me ask "Are you sure you've never dealt with mental health issues?"
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Exactly!
 
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