F4iChic
Kiss My Arse
- Joined
- Jun 21, 2002
- Location
- Concord
- Moto(s)
- PONY LIVES w00t
- Name
- seraF-ina
- BARF perks
- AMA #: 873747
(along the same theme of cheating SO’s, Asshattery and Happy Fucking Father’s Day)
Make a fool of me twice, shame on me
So, after spending a lifetime accommodating indiscretions towards me (generally by the male population), accepting unacceptable behaviour and forgiving (or most likely choosing to ignore and bury) all types of shitty ass stuff, the worm has turned……..I will not accept this crap any more!!!!
After getting some help from friends earlier this year to open my eyes to my own co-dependent behaviour and correcting a situation to help set me on a straight path, I found myself presented with an opportunity to continue in my normal co-dependent manner, or to fucking stand my ground………
Last week, a friend
blush) asked to borrow my suv for what appeared to be an honourable reason. Oh, he borrowed my cellphone too so that I could call him (his battery was dead) if needed. Being the generous person I am, I gave him the key and phone at approximately 2pm, with the promise that he would return the truck within a couple of hours. So 4pm comes and goes, no truck, 6pm, 8pm, no call, no truck, no nothing. About 8ish I call my cellphone, only to have it answered by some stranger at a homeless shelter who said he found it, and I could come get it. Well, without a damned truck I can’t go anywhere 
10.30pm there is truck on the driveway with a stream of bullshit about he lost track of time, yada yada, so sorry it won’t happen again, blah blah blah. And oh, sorry about the cellphone, I’ll go get it tomorrow for you.
I had a choice, stop this rot now or forgive one mistake. (Which could lead me on a slippery slope to forgiving yet one more, yet one more, yet one more.) I chose to forgive, with the admonition that he had used up his one chance, I will not take any more, one more fuckup and he is out of my life. He apologized, agreed, berated himself (basically said everything I wanted to hear
)
Fast forward to Friday of this week. He wants to borrow the truck again, with yet another honourable reason. So I hand him the key and gently remind him that he has used up his one chance to fuck up. He understands, agrees, and promises never to abuse my time, money, property ever again. This was at 10.30am. Promised to be back by 2pm. Well, you guessed it………………no show at 2, phone call at 1.45 saying he would be back at 2.30. Phone call at 2.15 ish saying be back by 3. Phone call at 3.25 saying he will be back at 3.30 (and it wasn’t him, it was a friend of his taking the piss out of me). This goes on and on and on until approx 10pm when last I heard he was on the side of the road with a flat and changing the wheel out.
Guess what time my truck came back? 11.30 am SATURDAY. Well, fuck that noise. I am determined that I will NOT accept this (even though it really goes against a lifetime of me accepting shit like this) and this shit is done. He had a few things at my place, well, they were in bags in the garage, ready for him to take. He had some stuff in the car that I unloaded onto the driveway, and I pulled the other bags from the garage and said “there you go”. He had the audacity to ask me if I could give him a ride to BART
all the while apologizing for staying out all night with my property. I am sure he thought I would just cave in like last week. Um no.
I told him to get his ass off my property. He did, and I haven’t heard from him since
And to be honest, it feels good to have done it, but it also feels really weird. I don’t do this shit, I take all the crap that I am given, forgive and ignore, and hope for the best day after day.
Oh, he washed the truck, and put oil in it, thinking that those gestures would somehow sway me into ignoring the fact that he was missing with my truck for 25 fucking hours. Again. Puhlease
(and no, the person is NOT a barfer
)
Sorry for the rant
Fucking loser
Make a fool of me twice, shame on me
So, after spending a lifetime accommodating indiscretions towards me (generally by the male population), accepting unacceptable behaviour and forgiving (or most likely choosing to ignore and bury) all types of shitty ass stuff, the worm has turned……..I will not accept this crap any more!!!!
After getting some help from friends earlier this year to open my eyes to my own co-dependent behaviour and correcting a situation to help set me on a straight path, I found myself presented with an opportunity to continue in my normal co-dependent manner, or to fucking stand my ground………
Last week, a friend
blush) asked to borrow my suv for what appeared to be an honourable reason. Oh, he borrowed my cellphone too so that I could call him (his battery was dead) if needed. Being the generous person I am, I gave him the key and phone at approximately 2pm, with the promise that he would return the truck within a couple of hours. So 4pm comes and goes, no truck, 6pm, 8pm, no call, no truck, no nothing. About 8ish I call my cellphone, only to have it answered by some stranger at a homeless shelter who said he found it, and I could come get it. Well, without a damned truck I can’t go anywhere 10.30pm there is truck on the driveway with a stream of bullshit about he lost track of time, yada yada, so sorry it won’t happen again, blah blah blah. And oh, sorry about the cellphone, I’ll go get it tomorrow for you.I had a choice, stop this rot now or forgive one mistake. (Which could lead me on a slippery slope to forgiving yet one more, yet one more, yet one more.) I chose to forgive, with the admonition that he had used up his one chance, I will not take any more, one more fuckup and he is out of my life. He apologized, agreed, berated himself (basically said everything I wanted to hear
)Fast forward to Friday of this week. He wants to borrow the truck again, with yet another honourable reason. So I hand him the key and gently remind him that he has used up his one chance to fuck up. He understands, agrees, and promises never to abuse my time, money, property ever again. This was at 10.30am. Promised to be back by 2pm. Well, you guessed it………………no show at 2, phone call at 1.45 saying he would be back at 2.30. Phone call at 2.15 ish saying be back by 3. Phone call at 3.25 saying he will be back at 3.30 (and it wasn’t him, it was a friend of his taking the piss out of me). This goes on and on and on until approx 10pm when last I heard he was on the side of the road with a flat and changing the wheel out.
Guess what time my truck came back? 11.30 am SATURDAY. Well, fuck that noise. I am determined that I will NOT accept this (even though it really goes against a lifetime of me accepting shit like this) and this shit is done. He had a few things at my place, well, they were in bags in the garage, ready for him to take. He had some stuff in the car that I unloaded onto the driveway, and I pulled the other bags from the garage and said “there you go”. He had the audacity to ask me if I could give him a ride to BART
all the while apologizing for staying out all night with my property. I am sure he thought I would just cave in like last week. Um no.I told him to get his ass off my property. He did, and I haven’t heard from him since
And to be honest, it feels good to have done it, but it also feels really weird. I don’t do this shit, I take all the crap that I am given, forgive and ignore, and hope for the best day after day.
Oh, he washed the truck, and put oil in it, thinking that those gestures would somehow sway me into ignoring the fact that he was missing with my truck for 25 fucking hours. Again. Puhlease
(and no, the person is NOT a barfer
)Sorry for the rant
Fucking loser
To ditching the 
to celebrate hiccup
....Robbie