Barf morality quiz: You have evidence your ex is cheating, do you reveal it?

[Beauregard]

...turned out to be another one of my coworkers, showing off the new girl he'd fucked over the weekend. Well, I'd known him for 2 years, her for a month...so he called her from my phone to tell her to delete his number, apologized to me, I deleted her number and was like "fuck it, if that's how she is you can have her." We both decided she wasn't worth either of our time.

Good man.


And for the OP: it depends of if he's a friend or just some dude. If he's my friend it's my business.

 

[m_asim]

That's not how you told the story. And what sides are there? It's not like you were married. The guy had no problem showing the girl's ass around, until you said something, right? Real class act, I would say.

Class act or not, he followed the bro code.

 

[Horse]

Does a non-cheating female actually exist>?

Yes, but she isn't hot, so does it really matter?

 

[silverbelt]

No good deed goes unpunished.

Stay out if it.

 

[wannabe]

Good man.


And for the OP: it depends of if he's a friend or just some dude. If he's my friend it's my business.

Do you really have friends that would go out with a chick that cheated on you?

 

[Yakoo752]

And for the OP: it depends of if he's a friend or just some dude. If he's my friend it's my business.

Do you really have friends that would go out with a chick that cheated on you?

you both read my mind

friend of mine - absolutely

but then a friend of mine would know her and the story as to why we aren't together and wouldn't touch her - actually a friend of mine wouldn't touch her since she was my ex and we'd have a mutual understanding/respect for each other that understands exs are off limits.

someone I sorta know... hmm, depends on if I respect him or not.

 

[ALANRIDER7]

Infidelity is far more prevalent than you think.

 

[High-Side]

You're still holding on - let it go and move on - it's none of your business now.

 

[budman]

Good man.


And for the OP: it depends of if he's a friend or just some dude. If he's my friend it's my business.

100% with you. Being an x has nothing to do with it. Being a friend sure does.

 

[Butch]

No good deed goes unpunished.

Stay out if it.

I want to reinforce that.

 

[Eldritch]

You dated a user. Your ex cheated on you. You have evidence your ex is using and cheating on someone else. Do you let the new SO know?


What say you Barf?

Why would you? How is it your business? I mean, if you know the dude and have a reason to talk to him, break it out. If not, it sounds like you're still not getting over your own shit. That's not a morality call. Morality is a matter of how you behave, it has nothing to do with how OTHERS behave.

 

[Beauregard]

actually a friend of mine wouldn't touch her since she was my ex and we'd have a mutual understanding/respect for each other that understands exs are off limits.

Yep. There's a code of honor amongst friends.

And if said friend unknowingly did sleep with a chick who was cheating on me you betcha I'd let him know, if for no other reason than to save him the humiliation of finding out from someone else.

 

[MikeyRocks]

Dafaq, page three and still no pic?

 

[TripleSeven]

Question for anyone: If your girlfriend was texting a former lover with a romantic tone while living with you, would you consider that cheating?

 

[MrIncredible]

Question for anyone: If your girlfriend was texting a former lover with a romantic tone while living with you, would you consider that cheating?

Moot, IMO. If she's doing that it's only a matter of time.

 

[fawndog]

Question for anyone: If your girlfriend was texting a former lover with a romantic tone while living with you, would you consider that cheating?

was it another girl, and is the goal to share her ex with you ?
If no, and you're not sharing a man/woman/sheep, I'd consider that "last months rent" and kick 'em out.

 

[wannabe]

Question for anyone: If your girlfriend was texting a former lover with a romantic tone while living with you, would you consider that cheating?

That depends. Did she do it openly in front of you, or did you only find out later when you had her phone in your hands?

 

[Cycle61]

And is the former lover female, and hawt, and coming over for a threesome?

 

[Sharky]

Question for anyone: If your girlfriend was texting a former lover with a romantic tone while living with you, would you consider that cheating?

It ain't cheating (per se), but you got a problem bro. She's either never stopped banging him, went back to banging him or will be banging him soon.

Cut that one loose.

 

[wannabe]

It ain't cheating (per se), but you got a problem bro. She's either never stopped banging him, went back to banging him or will be banging him soon.

Cut that one loose.

Actually, that's the reason for my question above. My definition of cheating is different than normal:

"If you can't tell your SO about it, then it's cheating."

So, if she was doing it in front of him, laughing, and showing him the texts as she did it, then I'd say that it's harmless. But, if she did it behind his back, and the only way he found out is when she let him use her phone and a text from the dude popped up, then he would need to rethink his position in the relationship.

Everything and every relationship is different. My definition of cheating (which I think I got from another BARFer) seems to be the only one that seems to work in all relationship situations.