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Do you compliment others?

Dubbington

Dubbington

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Dubs
I was in Berkeley couple weeks ago walk my dogs around and some 5'2 hottie stopped me to sign a petition. Turns out it was some greenpeace monthly donation I told her I couldn't do. As I was leaving I told her she was hot...and I don't think she liked it cuz she said 'shut up, really?'

Today I was returning pants at the mall and the manager girl helped me. Had a wedding ring on :( We bs'd and then I told her she was gorgeous and her husband was a lucky man as I was leaving.

Do you compliment others be it looks, service, etc?
 
Berkeley. Say no more... :laughing
 
It must be your delivery that needs work, Dub. it's always risky to compliment a woman. When I got married a complimented the bride's maid and she gave me a strange stare. Awkward!! Years later found out she was crazy and on schitzo meds cuz she heard voices n shit. :laughing
 
Dubbington said:
...and I don't think she liked it cuz she said 'shut up, really?'
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Depends on the tone of that "really?"

If it was the kind of "really?" that conveys she can't believe you just said that, it would have been accompanied by some pretty clear facial expression/body language; females learn to convey this stuff bluntly because a lot of us dick-carriers are pretty dense, and those that aren't will often continue until they get an unmistakable "fuck off".

You don't mention that, so it kinda sounds to me like she was prompting you for confirmation that you did indeed mean what you said.

Good on you for erring on the side of the gentleman- but if you aren't getting a clear "leave me alone" signal- Audaces fortuna iuvat, brother.
 
I would not compliment someone like that. It's either fratboi'ish, or creepy, depending on your age. If you must compliment teh ladies to satisfy that raging hardon in your pants, be way more discreet discreet about it. Just my 2c. :)
 
BLU_G.6K said:
It must be your delivery that needs work, Dub. it's always risky to compliment a woman. When I got married a complimented the bride's maid and she gave me a strange stare. Awkward!! Years later found out she was crazy and on schitzo meds cuz she heard voices n shit. :laughing
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^^ Maybe. I used to bang this super cute, belly dancing hippie chick in Berkeley back in 2005. She thought I was the all sensitive type cuz I recycled, rode a bicycle, spoke other languages and read books. The horror when she found out about my politics and where I've been. Priceless..! :laughing

Ant said:
Did her Berkeley armpits resemble having Buckwheat in a headlock?
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:laughing
 
When it comes to the opposite sex

In the work place absolutly not, I even avoid one on one conversations if caught in a situation with non one other around.

In social settings with people I do not truley know or have a direct relationship with absolutly not

With the same sex

In the work place absolutly not, I even avoid one on one or group conversations if they start jokes or comments.

In public, I have no reason to, unless it is a pet such as a dog cat or bird, I will then say Awesome beautiful animal.

The world os a crazy fooked up place. I saw someone just open the door once at a resturant for a very nice looking women and said hello and your welcome when she walked by. The guy just about got his ass kicked by the boyfreind who walked in behind her.
 
Not creepy at all. I didnt say 'hey you must work out cuz gurrlllll you gots an ass!"

I get complimented at work all the time on ties I wear. I have a hard time receiving compliments cuz I'm very critical of myself.

I just feel people dont do it enough.
 
As a woman, I'm going to go ahead and say that sounded creepy.

If you complimented her taste in shoes or her taste in literature or her great haircut, maybe, depending strongly on delivery. But many chicks get those "compliments-with-an-agenda" about their hotness approximately onegooglethousand times in their lives, and they're pretty over it.
 
I think we need a simple poll to really drive it home. :laughing
 
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Dubbington said:
I just feel people dont do it enough.
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Same here. Little things like random compliments and common courtesy have gone out the window. I've gotten laid just by giving a girl a compliment and walking away to the other side of the bar back to my friends not expecting anything. Then of course 90% of girls my age have super low standards since most guys are douches.
 
If I notice a woman at work has a nice new haircut, I might say it looks nice...that's about it.

Once at a conference I told a woman that her perfume was very nice, that most women do perfume wrong..she seemed surprised but pleased. I tried to sound friendly yet matter-of-fact.

Telling a woman you don't know REALLY well that they look hot is creepy.
 
Dubbington said:
Not creepy at all. I didnt say 'hey you must work out cuz gurrlllll you gots an ass!"

I get complimented at work all the time on ties I wear. I have a hard time receiving compliments cuz I'm very critical of myself.

I just feel people dont do it enough.
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Dude-creepy. Total creeper status.

Only thing more creepy would be for you to put on a trench coat and sunglasses and maybe platform shoes so the trench coat doesn't drag on the ground 'cause you're a creepy midget and wander around complimenting women who are just trying to go about their day. They don't need or want to hear it.
 
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