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Post / Chat whores post here (2026)

Oh, you're still an asshole, but a good one.
(Despite your trying really hard to make everyone think you are a Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad one).
 
Perhaps just restart that thread?

Seems many on here would like to see that happen.

I personally don't "think" I have any mental health issues but my brother certainly did from trauma as a child.

I have always thought drugs to help in that area were useless but his positive experience with them properly prescribed changed my mind.
 
Thank you Dennis, I hope that it can be understood and interpreted in kindness.
 
budman said:
Martin,

I am jumping in because this is becoming more than just chat and is becoming an issue that I do not want to deal with. This is what you did wrong.

You were asked to not participate based on your statement that you have never had any mental health issues. You continued. People pointed out such and you continued.

And then you brought it to a new thread and I am not sure how you cannot understand that your brand of discussion on this topic is really not wanted. two wheel tramp said that very clearly.

I really don't understand why a smart person like you would not get it and not step away because it is bothering others.

I know you are confident in your own skin and life, but sometimes that does not come across well in discussions where just sympathy is needed and a person throwing out advice with a perfect existence is not.

Just please step away from the Mental health thread.
My next step will be a suspension if you do not.

Man... I hate this part of BARFing.. and Kevin and others thanks.

Barf is not perfect and at times slow to react because I don't run this as I AM IN CHARGE SO DO AS I SAY!!! kind of thing. It has pissed off people before. It has cause good members to leave, but you know if you asked facebook to do something GFL getting their ear. We do try.

And Morning all.
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Just a few last comments on this.

1. The whole brouhaha was started when “someone” said I was minimizing peoples problems and telling them what to do. I did not minimize anyone’s problems. And I didn’t tell anyone what to do. I made suggestions which people can take. Or not. And several times I asked for an explanation re how I minimized anyone and got no response. In my mind, the lack of a response was telling.

2. I am an old man now. I live by myself as my wife died a few years ago. I have been on BARF for approximately 20 years and BARF has become one of the primary ways for me to socialize. Especially since i suffered a stroke a few years ago. To have been besmirched by that comment hurt. To then have my question ignored hurt more.
That is why I said what I said.

And after I thought about it more, I realized that I have had mental health “issues” in my life. That is why I posted about my father. And the things I posted earlier were exactly what saved me.

I now find that my reputation here has been painted with the wrong brush and I find that disappointing.

I want to continue posting here as it’s good therapy. But I will stay clear of threads where misinterpretation of my words is likely. And I hope that my contributions will continue to be appreciated.
 
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I was friends with Lou IRL. I would meet him up at Murphys for coffee. I can't drive past Copperopolis without having a thought for him. He became a difficult dude but I'm glad he had barf until he didn't.

Martin, at times you are like a dog with a bone. Even when asked politely, one who asks for you to release that bone often receives more barks and sometimes a growl. I have noticed this when you participate in threads where you lack any expertise. From electric vehicles to women's issues, you are never afraid to voice your opinion. Often if it is pointed out that your opinion isn't shared by those who are indeed experts, you dig in and next thing that happens is that the potential of sharing information becomes a thread where you star as the defender of an opinion based on no direct personal experience.

As a suggestion, perhaps try listening over preaching, you may be better received.

Like you, my socializing mostly exists here, on this forum and I cherish every member of this community ,even those who may not cherish me.
 
ThumperX said:
I was friends with Lou IRL. I would meet him up at Murphys for coffee. I can't drive past Copperopolis without having a thought for him. He became a difficult dude but I'm glad he had barf until he didn't.

Martin, at times you are like a dog with a bone. Even when asked politely, one who asks for you to release that bone often receives more barks and sometimes a growl. I have noticed this when you participate in threads where you lack any expertise. From electric vehicles to women's issues, you are never afraid to voice your opinion. Often if it is pointed out that your opinion isn't shared by those who are indeed experts, you dig in and next thing that happens is that the potential of sharing information becomes a thread where you star as the defender of an opinion based on no direct personal experience.

As a suggestion, perhaps try listening over preaching, you may be better received.

Like you, my socializing mostly exists here, on this forum and I cherish every member of this community ,even those who may not cherish me.
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I cherish you. Also I am really sorry about Joy.. That doesn't sound fun.
 
ST Guy said:
Just a few last comments on this.

1. The whole brouhaha was started when “someone” said I was minimizing peoples problems and telling them what to do. I did not minimize anyone’s problems. And I didn’t tell anyone what to do. I made suggestions which people can take. Or not. And several times I asked for an explanation re how I minimized anyone and got no response. In my mind, the lack of a response was telling.

2. I am an old man now. I live by myself as my wife died a few years ago. I have been on BARF for approximately 20 years and BARF has become one of the primary ways for me to socialize. Especially since i suffered a stroke a few years ago. To have been besmirched by that comment hurt. To then have my question ignored hurt more.
That is why I said what I said.

And after I thought about it more, I realized that I have had mental health “issues” in my life. That is why I posted about my father. And the things I posted earlier were exactly what saved me.

I now find that my reputation here has been painted with the wrong brush and I find that disappointing.

I want to continue posting here as it’s good therapy. But I will stay clear of threads where misinterpretation of my words is likely. And I hope that my contributions will continue to be appreciated.
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1) You were the second person to respond in that thread, and you offered an empty platitude about doing something one likes as if it's a magic panacea, and then unequivocally stated that you do not, nor have you ever suffered from any mental health issues.
You received immediate pushback on your perceived arrogance and misplaced credentials and you simply ignored it. Four different people gave you the exact same message and you basically told them to fuck off. "I did not minimize anyone's problems" except when people tell you that's exactly what you did YOU TOLD THEM THEY WERE WRONG instead of some internal realization that maybe it doesn't matter what your fist feels, it matters how someone's face feels.

2) Back stories do not matter in this context. However, we all know that BARF is your primary socialization medium. It's very obvious. And any reputation you have here is yours to own.


Come on the rally next weekend and put faces to names and get to actually know people. :thumbup
 
mean dad said:
1) You were the second person to respond in that thread, and you offered an empty platitude about doing something one likes as if it's a magic panacea, and then unequivocally stated that you do not, nor have you ever suffered from any mental health issues.
You received immediate pushback on your perceived arrogance and misplaced credentials and you simply ignored it. Four different people gave you the exact same message and you basically told them to fuck off. "I did not minimize anyone's problems" except when people tell you that's exactly what you did YOU TOLD THEM THEY WERE WRONG instead of some internal realization that maybe it doesn't matter what your fist feels, it matters how someone's face feels.

2) Back stories do not matter in this context. However, we all know that BARF is your primary socialization medium. It's very obvious. And any reputation you have here is yours to own.


Come on the rally next weekend and put faces to names and get to actually know people. :thumbup
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Which rally is next weekend?
 
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