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So my girlfriend is addicted to…..

Hooli said:
Dunno about that. Bob may get the idea that OP wants him too.
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:laughing

Maybe I'm looking at this the wrong way. Part of me thinks I should man up and go support her and be THAT boyfriend and be the better person.

She really is a good person and I don't question her integrity despite the extra-marital affairs. I have no room to judge there.

If his wife is hot, who knows what's possible. :laughing

But NO, Bob ain't going there with me. JS

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JakesKTM said:
:laughing

Maybe I'm looking at this the wrong way. Part of me thinks I should man up and go support her and be THAT boyfriend and be the better person.

She really is a good person and I don't question her integrity despite the extra-marital affairs. I have no room to judge there.

If his wife is hot, who knows what's possible. :laughing

But NO, Bob ain't going there with me. JS

@happyhighwayman < year
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I was on Team Dumpaho when the thread started but I think after 3 pages I'm convinced from the others that are on Team Enjoy the tix.
 
Yakoo752 said:
sounds like it your insecurities on the table
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And for good cause. Wouldn't you say?
Just gotta find a way to deal with it. And the manner in which it's dealt may end up determining the future with said hawty. If it were me and I had no intent of asking the GF to marry me I'd go and have a good time. Would be a great experience to test the ability to have a good time in what may be considered a tough/hostile crowd.
 
Yakoo752 said:
sounds like it your insecurities on the table
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I thought about this and it might be true in all honesty. I have issues.

I think I'm going to man up here and just take a chance. If it turns catastrophic - well there's always the game! lol

Marriage? The word has come up but not realistic at this point?
 
JakesKTM said:
Sorry everyone. In the midst of all this national conflict and debate on racial divide, etc. - I'm having a personal crisis I need help with...
...So I feel it’s a lose-lose. How can I turn it around or not?
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Brother, you may want to pull a Getoutski. I know shit like that is easier said than done when on the internet, but it legit sounds like someone who has life goals and behavior patterns that are not in tune with yours and will more than likely end in a bad scene for you.

Seriously, think about it.
 
CocoLoco said:
And for good cause. Wouldn't you say?
Just gotta find a way to deal with it. And the manner in which it's dealt may end up determining the future with said hawty. If it were me and I had no intent of asking the GF to marry me I'd go and have a good time. Would be a great experience to test the ability to have a good time in what may be considered a tough/hostile crowd.
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How would intent of marriage change the equation? You and HH both brought that up. ??
 
JakesKTM said:
Oh, and to throw another wrench in this equation? two other married guys that are part of this group sex are going to be there. So it's a past I'm not too comfy with tbh
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huh? so she used to swing w/ married men, all facilitated by Bob?
 
Take the tickets, got to the game. Sit in the luxury booth, then upperdecker it. Upperdecker all of it. Hell, eat a bunch of ex-lax ahead of time and just spray the whole damn stadium.
 
CocoLoco said:
And for good cause. Wouldn't you say?
Just gotta find a way to deal with it. And the manner in which it's dealt may end up determining the future with said hawty. If it were me and I had no intent of asking the GF to marry me I'd go and have a good time. Would be a great experience to test the ability to have a good time in what may be considered a tough/hostile crowd.
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absolutely, it's likely well deserved. Just don't let your insecurities stew as they tend to rot pretty fast.

JakesKTM said:
I thought about this and it might be true in all honesty. I have issues.

I think I'm going to man up here and just take a chance. If it turns catastrophic - well there's always the game! lol

Marriage? The word has come up but not realistic at this point?
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If you dig this lady go and have fun. This is your opportunity to see if there is anything there any longer.

My wife and I had a similar albeit vastly different issue. She is great friends with one of her ex's. She let me know early on that wouldn't change. I vocalized my insecurities and explained why they exist. She offered to keep me informed when they communicated and if they were to meet up, I would be invited. After a few dinners and what not, I realized it was harmless. She still lets me know if they talk and whatnot; I'm even invited out occasionally, rarely do I go.

Maybe she see's and understands that it bothers you and she would like you to witness that there is nothing there. Maybe she wants you to see that it was indeed 2 consenting adults having casual intercourse, nothing wrong with that. You assume Bob's wife doesn't know. Not many can cheat and their spouse never find out. Doesn't matter how good you think you are.
 
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JakesKTM said:
I thought about this and it might be true in all honesty. I have issues.

I think I'm going to man up here and just take a chance. If it turns catastrophic - well there's always the game! lol

Marriage? The word has come up but not realistic at this point?
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How catasrophic could it be? Any worse than a Sink encounter? :rofl

I still advise laying it out for your partner beforehand, at least so you're on the same page.

And we're ALL gonna want to know how it works out! :thumbup
 
If Bob doesn't want his wife to find out, unless it's for the purpose of breaking up so he can get with whomever, then the only thing for him to do is to sever ties with his ex-mistress. Can't quite agree with faking friends with pos boob for the purpose of personal gain, that's called 'using people' and is not an honorable behavior.
 
stangmx13 said:
huh? so she used to swing w/ married men, all facilitated by Bob?
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asthmodeus said:
i was wondering if i was the only one confused by this...
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You guys are suggesting Bob has a wicked sense of style?

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Basically if he loves her and wants to get married, I'd say you need to work out this issue, and your concerns are understandable, but if you don't love her and have no intention of marriage, I'd say either GTFO ASAP or because you don't care enough, take the tickets and enjoy.
 
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