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would you allow your in-laws tell you what to do in your own house..?

My inlaws are dead, so no. But if they did show up and start getting bossy, it'd be kinda awesome.

Also... I'm tempted to say I wouldn't even let my own parents do that sort of thing, but then my parents are pretty cool. They respect boundaries and wouldn't even do that sort of thing in my house. It's never really been an issue.
 
I did once have other in-law family once tell me to stop swearing in the presence of their young child. I kindly demonstrated that that knob goes to 11. :laughing
 
I had my MIL tell me I wasn't pouring concrete the right way. I'd had enough and finally let loose. Told her she can wear the pants in her relationship all she wants but at my house I'll do it my way. I was in my late 20s at the time.

From that day forward she kept her opinions to herself and I treated her with respect. She's now in her mid 70s and battling her 3rd occurrence of lung cancer without chemo/radiation this time. Tough woman that I'll respect my whole life.

Plus, god damnit, she was right about the concrete.
 
The in laws are a package deal. I'd venture to guess that this event wasn't out of character for the mil, so it shouldn't be a surprise. He will need a sense of humor about the relationship so he doesn't torture the wife being caught in the middle.
 
I can't even think of a situation where my MIL would want a party for her and her friends at my house in the first place. :wtf
 
corndog67 said:
I've got a stepkid like that. "Oh my god, the dog smells." So, the dog lives here. "Oh my god, the dog smells". Yeah, he does. Smells like oranges. "You should use a different shampoo on him, I don't like the orange smell". So, the dog lives here, you don't, would you rather he smelled like feet or buttholes? "Oh my god, the dog smells." (He tends to repeat things, 5 times). Finally, my wife says, we'll change the shampoo we use for the dog. "Oh my god, the dog smells." Jesus Fucking Christ Dude.

Same with kitchen utensils. He is an amatuer chef (imaginary). "This skillet is no good." "This skillet is no good." "This skillet is no good." "This skillet is no good." My wife then tells him she will buy a new skillet. "This skillet is no good." No exaggeration, he says everything 5 times. I can almost ignore it. Almost. Other than that, he treats me and my wife very well. I guess it's better than getting collect calls from jail.
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your step kid is on the autism spectrum.

wazzuFreddo said:
I can't even think of a situation where my MIL would want a party for her and her friends at my house in the first place. :wtf
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maybe V4's surrogate MIL is homeless and her friends didn't understand how to use furniture and stemware, preferring park benches and box wine?

anybody seen wendy?
 
have the best MIL ever! am looking to buy property soon in a dream exUS location (looking long term toward retirement) and am hoping she will want to live there while he and i slave away until we can make the move. a beautiful garden is a must. for her, and for us.
 
Sound like a typical Asian in law. They get spoiled by "respect" and expect everyone to obey their commands. Funny thing is, they don't realize how much of a cunt they're making themselves look. Not all Asians are like this but MOST.
 
I had an Asian girlfriend and her mother had zero financial sense. When the gf told me her mother would be moving in with her :later
 
My own family would never treat me this way, and I wouldn't tolerate it from anyone else. A half-joking, "just because it's your birthday doesn't mean you get to boss everyone around" might go a long way.

My sister's former in-laws had the nerve to come by when nobody was home, dig up a tree she'd planted in her front yard, and move it to a more "desirable" location. I can't believe she stayed as composed about it as she did. I can't imagine doing that at someone else's home.
 
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littlebeast said:
have the best MIL ever! am looking to buy property soon in a dream exUS location (looking long term toward retirement) and am hoping she will want to live there while he and i slave away until we can make the move. a beautiful garden is a must. for her, and for us.
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I love you even more.

I'm not married, but my g f's parents are beyond cool. They are Latin and she told me that they used to not speak kindly towards Black folks. But since she and I have been together, they worship the ground I walk on. She said that they are constantly telling her that she must "be good to Ed, you don't want to lose him".

About once every 2 months I take them out to breakfast or lunch. I even drop off dinner s that I cooked for them. I will even give her Mother a few bucks for her morning coffee.

I love them and they love me. They try to tell Rosa to quit spoiling your kids because "ed doesn't like that" lol. I love her parents.
 
I might move furniture around for her, but I wouldn't move the cars or serve anyone. Also, asking instead of telling me would go a long way.
 
I can just imagine this whole sordid thing playing out. In the ideal situation, the husband and wife take a solid stand and compromise a bit but are firm that MIL's "suggestions" are just that. I just wish ideal ever happened.

I wanna buy that guy a drink. It is the height of ungrateful to dictate a party given in your honor. The woman is a walking Dear Abby letter.
 
Yes, I would do what they asked and I would have done it with a smile on my face.

1 because they are getting old, they won't be around much longer and I'll spoil them while I can. 2. It wasn't such a big deal. Her friends are probably old as well, it is harder to walk farther when you are old. So I would have let them park as close as they want. 3. I would have wanted them to have drinks and sit together to have fun. I would have done all that without them asking. I would have asked and gotten what she wanted to drink before she even came over. I make sure I have what they like when my in laws vist.

We won't have our parents forever, it would have made the visit go nicely if he showed some courtesy. It was HER birthday. Respect and love will cover a lot.
 
V4 said:
say you and your wife/husband bought a house together...

your home is your castle..period...

your inlaws come visit the house and always telling you what should be done, go do this, that, etc...

would you take that crap or tell your inlaws to STFU..?

this weekend, my buddy had a bday party for his mother in law...not that he wanted to...she is telling him to move the cars in the garage out so her friends have a place to park and convenient for them...she tells him he needs to move some chairs and furniture around so it's easy for HER friends to sit together....she wants him to go buy nice white wine instead of beer and soda for dinner for her friends but she's not giving any money for it..

she even went as far as telling me and some others to start moving the furniture around and move some stuff out of the way because my buddy isn't move fast enough for her...

we basically told her it's not our house to move shit around ...she gets huffy so we tell her to go fuck herself, basically...

she tells us to serve wine for her friends and i told her in front of them if they can come this far by themselves, they can walk a few feet to get their own damn food and drinks....

basically the weekend was a disaster for him...

would you take that crap from your inlaws...? i was once married and knew it was time to divorce when i found myself kicking my father in law...
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Well, it is her birthday party. You agreed to host it, willingly or not, so it seems like her requests, no matter how annoying she is, were reasonable.

Especially if she is old and wants to park as close as possible to the door.

But if you think she is wrong, then don't invite her over again.
 
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