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2nd Time... Dating IS FUN!
- Thread starter MikeL
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- Jul 14, 2004
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- Oakland
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- ...between bikes
- Name
- Heather
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It's a little forward and might hurt the other person's feelings to just blurt that out. If she calls, she calls. And if not, then you've got the night free. There's nothing crazy about that.
And if you want an answer from her, then try asking the question. I don't hear you saying, "Hey, I'm kind of into you and I'd like to see you more than I currently do." At some point someone needs to just cut to the chase. Sounds like you're more worried about this than she is, so the onus is on you to figure it out.
I didn't know I was the bad guy here. I don't consider either party the "bad guy."
She has bailed on the last 2 dates, both times saying "I really want to see you! Let's reschedule" etc. First one was a valid reason, mothers day stuff. I get that.
This time, just kinda bailed and said "I got stuff to do, I'll text you later."
I mean, I can take a hint haha.
TheRobSJ
May lose 10mm sockets if distracted
No no no.....as in wanting to be single again. The going out and eating overly priced food isnt my thing, also can tell I'm getting fat
Well guess what...it don't get any cheaper down the road.
As I've said many many times now, first couple dates, married for a couple decades, or just straight up call an "escort"....we all still pay for it no matter what.
TheRobSJ
May lose 10mm sockets if distracted
It's over. No bridge to burn. So fuck the PMs. As the kids say, put her on blast.
JesasaurusRex
On a break
I haven't been dating in a long time. But from what I remember the few times I told someone I wanted to keep it casual I either hurt their feelings (told her after the deed was done) or they bolted. Maybe it's easier to find fuck buddies these days. I wouldn't know.
No no no.....as in wanting to be single again. The going out and eating overly priced food isnt my thing, also can tell I'm getting fat
You keep saying this in multiple threads and I don't know why as if spending a shit ton on food all the time is a requisite of dating.
If you don't want to do that, then don't do it. The only answer to that problem isn't just going back to being single.
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drewcandraw
Hired Grunt
Mike at least your doing better than my tech bro, his tinder game on fire. He just doesn't close deals like you do haha
Hooli
Bonafide
Yakoo752
USN
If she bailed she wasn't in it for the casual. She was looking for something you didn't have
Hooli
Bonafide
If she bailed she wasn't in it for the casual. She was looking for something you didn't have
Like either a fat bank account, or a couple more inches.
Well damn, I don't have a fat bank account..
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- Charming
- Moto(s)
- bitchin trike with oxygen
- Name
- Piney
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If she bailed she wasn't in it for the casual. She was looking for something you didn't have
+1
No need to keep going if either party isn't happy with it the relationship... not much invested, so.....
arty on ....
Kestrel
Active member
- Joined
- Jul 14, 2004
- Location
- Oakland
- Moto(s)
- ...between bikes
- Name
- Heather
- BARF perks
- AMA #: 1028914
I don't think I ever said anyone was the bad guy, but you're here complaining about the situation and she's not. I'm suggesting that you take a more proactive stance about where she resides in the relationship and ask her about it. That's all.
dingusdecker is the answer
Is that similar to Boppin' the Bishop?
