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2nd Time... Dating IS FUN!

KWeezyXB12 said:
more like 4's. a chick at my work showed me her inbox on one of these dating sites. she had like 300 messages within the last week. i wouldnt touch this girl with a 10 foot pole. as long as it has a pulse dudes will go after it these days.
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Hmmm... read this several seeks back. Somehow seems appropriate now...

Do Men Grow Beards To Show Dominance? Here's What The Science Says

Scientists have long known that beards can make a man seem more dominant and masculine.

Now provocative new research involving primates shows that male facial hair is more elaborate in social groups involving intense competition for rank, dominance and attractiveness (see video above).

Is the same phenomenon seen in humans, and might that explain the rise of the hipster beard? Maybe so.

"In general, our new research shows that body ornaments appear to be more elaborate in larger groups of primates (where signaling quality and status to strangers is of great importance) and the same may apply to humans which live in fairly large societies," Dr. Cyril Grueter, an associate professor of biological anthropology at the University of Western Australia in Perth and the study's lead author, told The Huffington Post in an email.

For the study, the researchers analyzed facial hair and other body ornaments of 154 primates species--from the long capes of white and silvery hair in hamadryas baboons to the elongated noses of proboscis monkeys.
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The study was published online in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior on March 12, 2015.

Are badges of status adaptive in large complex primate groups?
 
Its the thirst factor of SF. I can get decent matches in any other City. In other parts of the world? Like shooting fish in a barrel. Here there is no consistency. No rhyme or reason. No follow through.
 
Reli said:
What cracks me up is dudes with full beards but who shave their head. So what that means is, their beard goes up to where their ear is and just ends. Looks fucking wack IMO.
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its not supposed to look good for you anyways.
 
kevin 714 said:
Seems to me online dating is a recipe for poor self confidence
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Where do you take your skills & game to meet women? How successful are you?
I met my X in college. I'm not a barfly kind of guy. I use the computer to rapidly increase the odds of meeting someone more compatible as opposed to wasting time making conversation with women who I have nothing in common with. :dunno

Reli said:
The great equalizer for those with no game and no tact
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Sam Colt gave Men an equalizer. :twofinger :laughing
 
I should clarify I didn't mean online dating is for non confident people, but that the act of commoditizing yourself and then constant rejection, would be rough on self confidence
 
Eldritch said:
No, dude, that is not what I have seen. The horrors of the relationship drama I have had to manage between clients since I have been managing housing in the TL is beyond words.
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ANY woman can get wang anytime she wants, just depends on how low she'll stoop.
 
aminalmutha said:
ANY woman can get wang anytime she wants, just depends on how low she'll stoop.
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Yeah, exactly. No matter how much of a troll a woman may be, there is always half a dozen dudes just around the corner who are dirtier dawgs. :laughing
 
kevin 714 said:
I should clarify I didn't mean online dating is for non confident people, but that the act of commoditizing yourself and then constant rejection, would be rough on self confidence
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I made an account recently and I've got to say there's nothing more cringey to me than writing about myself as a sell.
rejection is part of the game. I think everyone just gets that.
 
kevin 714 said:
I should clarify I didn't mean online dating is for non confident people, but that the act of commoditizing yourself and then constant rejection, would be rough on self confidence
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I have embraced rejection & now feel empowered! There is somebody out there for everybody. :laughing

carries an axe said:
I made an account recently and I've got to say there's nothing more cringey to me than writing about myself as a sell.
Rejection is part of the game. I think everyone just gets that.
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Exactly. Online dating is a numbers game.
I used POF up. Been seeing the same profiles for 10 months. Now I only troll the new users.

I joined a second site & while I see a few of the same women, that are on POF, there is about 90% I have not seen & vice-versa. Yes there is a lot of guys to compete with. But these women seem to be more polite. No snarky comments. Instead of rejection, I just get ignored. I'm ok with that. I've gotten to ignore a bunch myself. Short, 65-70 year old women just seem to gravitate to me..:wtf

In two weeks I'm communicating with half a dozen women. I had to make a scorecard to keep track of them. I have 2 dates lined up this weekend. The cool thing is all these women are up there in the categories I'm looking at: Type of relationship desired, Distance, Income, Family, Age, Height, Body type, pretty face ( by my standards).

Work allows me to compose nice messages to each one everyday to establish some serious repoire. So I'm having fun with it. I have met some nice women. Had a lot of single dates. I find the more dates I go on, the more I polish my game. I am looking for a serious type of relationship. I finally stopped hopping into bed with women I had no long term type interest in. It's very satisfying to tell a women, "I just want to be friends" :laughing

I haven't spent that much money either. Coffee or wine/cocktail, and then you both decide if it goes further. Each date has cost me between $0 & $60. with the majority being less than $25.
 
Yeah, I have created an account twice in my life about 8 years or so apart. Just because I hear people buzz about it and I am kind of curious about how it works. I'm kind of old fashioned about this sort of shit. Never tried to message anyone and just created free accounts under a false name to look around the system. The shit is weird. It certainly seems to be a numbers game because I was getting messages from cougars on the prowl based solely off the single mandatory pic with very little personal description.

The shit is weird to me and I don't know if I could run a numbers game like that myself, but as I get older I sometimes wonder if there isn't value in applying available technology to data filter and screen partners for more efficient target acquisition. I don’t know man, I have a lot going on in my life and it seems like an awful lot of work to me when you can just get to where the action is and go meet people, but I guess if you are way out of any really live scenes in rural America like Livermore or Windsor or some shit it is probably really helpful because it is hard to meet folks in areas of lower population density.
 
Human beings arent the sum of their data And I personally have an issue with Tryinh to filter people based on traits, in that manner
 
kevin 714 said:
Human beings arent the sum of their data And I personally have an issue with Tryinh to filter people based on traits, in that manner
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Yeah, man, I am in the same boat, but I do wonder sometimes, you know? Like, if I wanted a date for the Danzig show in July, I could ping one of many women I know that would go to kick it with me, but what if I wanted to find someone that was INTO Danzig?

I don't have tickets to that show, it is just an example of concept. Do some filtering up front to help with target acquisiton and then go through the regular natural process I am more accustomed to. I am a bit stuck in my ways to start that up any time soon, but I can see the value of the tool.
 
kevin 714 said:
Human beings arent the sum of their data And I personally have an issue with Tryinh to filter people based on traits, in that manner
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I agree
Say you meet a woman at a concert. You start out strictly based on attraction.
How long will it take you to find out if:
is she available?
is she employed?
How many kids?
Doe she have a house, car or apartment?
Do you have anything in common besides liking Justin Bieber?

How many more can you meet at the concert & now, how much have you spent?

You take the raw data and if you go out for coffee, you find out if you have a connection.

What issue do you have? Seriously.
 
1. Everyone is available
2. Every trait you just listed only matters to me within the context of who the person is.

I'm not Trying to limit myself to raw data and see if someone just fits an equation I Alresdy have set out.


I refuse to quantify people

Stuff in common is overrated.i don't need to have pretty much anything in common with you. Shit, that might make it more fun
 
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