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ThumperX said:
Welcome to elder hell Kurosexi. I know that is uncharitable of me to say but that's what it feels like sometimes. My mom ends every visit with "when are you coming back?" this is usually followed by a call before I am even home asking me to help with things. If I didn't have a full on life I would back a bag and just move in, I know she is feeling very vulnerable and lonely. Not sure if this is what's happening with your mom or not but it does explain a lot.
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I understand pretty much all of that. I'm just trying to navigate this. My dad wasn't this way after he retired and I'm not trying to imply any difference between men and women. But that was likely because me and my uncle (RIP) remodeled the whole house before he retired so nothing much to ask for.

If she's just lonely, I can understand that. That's not something I can fix. It's not a feasible solution to have your son live with you and have him do work around the house. She does have friends in her neighborhood I did meet. Wonderful people. It's a 55+ community so they're a welcoming community to help anyone. I was very surprised meeting them because they don't often meet "younger" people.

I know too many people of all ages and gender that it's not fair to make a judgement based just on that.

I understand when you're parents get older, it is a good thing if their children can help them. I have no problems with that. But I still need to keep things moving to like... you know... paying bills and stuff.

In hindsight, I might think differently thinking about the time spent with my parents. But right now, I feel like talk to your other son. He won't change but hope maybe he can calm it down for a little bit. That would take a load off my shoulders but I know that percentage of that happening is around 0%
 
I wouldn't have said any of this if I didn't trust the PW crew.

Also, I really don't give a fuck. My life could have been ended a couple times so, things I think and want to share, I'm not shy about speaking about it because in my experience, they help someone. If it's one person, that's good enough for me.
 
I took 2 muscle relaxers and a shot of vodka. I still can't turn my head... but I care less. :laughing
 
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I take a dishtowel, roll it up sort of tight, place it inside a newspaper glove then add water to make it thoroughly damp, stick that in the microwave for 1.5 minutes, wrap it in a dry dishtowel and place across my neck. Sometimes it even helps.
 
Let me talk to the other half about the tub. What size and shape are we talking about?
 
I used to get debilitating neck pain from an old injury and commuting on a motorcycle. One week I had fieldwork which consisted of carrying a 40 pound pack 16 miles through a canyon with no trail and no way out other than the way we were headed, or the way we came in (Piru Creek from Pyramid Lake to Lake Piru).

Of course my neck went out the night before. I found that for some completely insane reason that makes perfectly sense now, the pack was a miracle cure. It stretched out my neck and opened the little nerve openings and got rid of the pain.
 
I went outside... And I saw this.

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Brokenlink said:
I love cool bumperstickers.
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Bumper stickers are self-inflicted graffiti on your car, and agreed...they can be cool.
So can *some* graffiti.
I remember seeing *cool graffiti* for the first time as a young kid.
I was in a public restroom and noticed what was written on the paper toilet seat cover dispenser on the wall in the stall.
It said "Free Nixon Campaign Hats".
I confess I've defiled those dispensers in a similar way every four years ever since.
 
N4teTheGreat said:
That person is clearly special.
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did you just say... a lone star Frenchie??



well it has the country-ID sticker magnet of Le France...


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BTW back when then, those country-stickers were required between borders. Now, they .. aren't, because, ... the ID is on the standardized-format license plate(smaller).
 
Got thrown into an HOA meeting about legal shit without a lawyer, I'd like to think I helped to calm things down so we can find a resolution. A neighbor saw me later and thought I had a sunburn, naw that's the color I turn when things get stressful.
 
that's cool that you... chilled them out!!!!


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sigh, I can't wait to face the outdoor chill-wind weather of SF twice tomorrow.
 
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