I can relate and you gotta do what you gotta do. Moving from a 2 income family to 1 is not easy at all. But it build you a strong character and determination. I was laid-off and gave up on corporate America with all the greediness thus decided to venture into something that was bugging me for a very long time and for Ace he has his own story and he has a fairly good paying job with an MBA

. Go figure.
BTW: You may like this story. It falls into our situation but with different reasons.
"Officer who tried to save toddler found his career later in life
By JEFF JARDINE
jjardine@modbee.com
last updated: June 19, 2008 10:10:38 AM
Promo of JJ Ramar, the Modesto police officer who shot and killed the guy who killed his own child Saturday night near Turlock. He helped Dan CostaĂŤs 5.11 Tactical design a better pair of pants for police and military type work. - Unknown - Unknown
Promo of JJ Ramar, the Modesto police officer who shot and killed the guy who killed his own child Saturday night near Turlock. He helped Dan CostaĂŤs 5.11 Tactical design a better pair of pants for police and military type work. - Unknown - Unknown
Whenever there's an unusual incident or action of any kind, you might think, "Wow, what were the odds of that particular person being there at that particular time?"
For Modesto police officer Jerry "J.J." Ramar, those odds go well beyond being a part of the helicopter unit that responded Saturday night to a most fateful and tragic call: a man stomping his 2-year-old son to death along a rural road west of Turlock.
The odds transcended Ramar jumping out of the chopper as it landed, running up to an electrified fence, pointing his gun at 27-year-old Sergio Aguiar and ordering him to stop his maniacal assault on his lifeless son.
And they go beyond Ramar firing a single shot — truly a shot in the dark — through the dust stirred up by the aircraft's blades, killing Aguiar instantly.
That's because Ramar followed a less-traveled path to become a police officer to be at that point at that very moment.
Some who go into law enforcement go to the police academy right out of high school, junior college or after a hitch in the military. Assuming they survive the background investigations and drug screens, many begin their careers with agencies in small cities.
Ramar comes from another group: Those who tire of life in the private sector and want something different. He entered the academy at age 30, graduated at 31 and joined the 1,400-officer San Jose Police Department in January 2002. He commuted to work for 2½ years until he was hired by Modesto in the spring of 2004.
When the incident occurred late Saturday, the 37-year-old easily could have been reviewing the night's receipts in the Mallard's Restaurant he once managed and later co-owned in Stockton. He could have been checking the pantry to make sure there was enough food to handle the next day's business. He could have been doing any other task a small-business owner does every day to keep the place profitable.
Instead, he traded customer service for an oath to protect the public. In this case, it meant trying try to save a child who, in all probability, was dead before Ramar arrived.
What compelled him to switch careers midstream? Right now, he's not allowed to say. Citing the usual internal investigative and legal protocol after any officer-involved shooting, Modesto Police Chief Roy Wasden prohibited Ramar from talking to the media until the formal probe is completed.
In the past, officers involved even in the most obviously justifiable shootings have had to wait several months to learn whether they could face repercussions for their actions. But District Attorney Birgit Fladager, who promised during her campaign to resolve officer-involved shooting cases within 30 days, said this one should have the desired quick turnaround. Officials from her office began "shadowing the investigation that night," she said.
"There's not going to be any issue with this case," Fladager said. "But we do need to follow the process and be thorough."
The gag order on Ramar doesn't limit others from talking about him, though.
In 1989, entrepreneur Dan Costa hired Ramar, then an 18-year-old senior at Beyer High School, as a bus boy at the original Mallard's in Modesto. Ramar wanted to become an engineer and needed to pay his way through college, according to a 1999 story in The Bee. He could attend school at San Joaquin Delta College in Stockton during the day and work at night.
Steve Chappell, Ramar's best friend since they were fourth-graders at Capistrano Elementary in Modesto, said said he found Ramar's choice of occupations intriguing.
"He was going to JC, and I'm more surprised he didn't stay with that, go on and get an engineering degree," said Chappell, now a wildlife biologist who lives in Dixon.
Costa kept Ramar in the restaurant business by promoting him. He soon moved up — to waiter, then bartender and assistant manager. Ramar met his future wife, Keri, at Mallard's, where she also worked. By the time he was 28, he managed the Stockton Mallard's and, in 1999, bought half-ownership in the restaurant from Costa. Mallard's head chef Stan Dimond bought the other half.
Now married and a family man, the grind of the restaurant business wore on Ramar, Dimond said.
"You're there morning, noon and night," Dimond said. "Get a family, and you have to decide whether you want to be married to (the business) or spend time with the family."
"As owner and person who got called whenever there was a problem, or when his people called in and didn't come into work, he was the one responsible for maintaining the quality," Chappell said. "The restaurant business was consuming."
Dimond said the fast-paced nature of a restaurant challenges a manager to make decisions instantly and often. Ramar was very good at it — an ability, Dimond said, that translates well to police work and likely enabled Ramar to handle the situation last weekend.
Dimond remembers one night when robbers entered the Stockton restaurant after closing time and demanded cash.
"I would have let them in and 'Here's the money,' " Dimond said. "He didn't. He locked (the office) door with the money and wouldn't let them in."
Over the years, Ramar became friends with a number of police officers who frequented the restaurant. And, Chappell said, Ramar had other family members and friends who were in law enforcement.
One day, in late 2000 or early 2001, Ramar told Costa and Dimond that he wanted to sell his share of the restaurant.
"He said he was going to be a cop," Costa said. "That was his desire. It was a complete and total departure from anything he'd been doing with us. We about dropped our jaws. 'What?!!' He said he had a hankering to get into law enforcement. We said, 'If that's what you want, follow your love.' "
Within a few years, Ramar graduated from the academy, worked in San Jose and had joined the Modesto police. Costa, who had tapped into Ramar's potential in the restaurant business, was building his newest venture, 5.11 Tactical, which makes clothing for law enforcement and SWAT teams. He had sold the restaurants in 2005, and they have since closed.
He invited Ramar — whom he still calls J.J. — and other officers to sit in on a meeting for the development of new products.
"He said, 'This is the pant I wear on duty,' " Costa said, referring to an Army battle dress uniform that's been around since World War II. "He said it was the biggest piece of (junk) in law enforcement. The other guys agreed. So we sat there and designed a new pant."
Hence, the Tactical Dress Uniform was born. Ramar appears in a brochure for the garment, which became a hot seller for Costa's company.
"We used him in a national advertisement — a big picture of J.J. wearing the pants, explaining how he changed the industry," Costa said.
That, of course, wouldn't have happened if Ramar had not changed careers. Nor would he have been on the helicopter Saturday night, and had to fire his weapon for the first time in his career.
The odds of him being in that particular situation at that very moment? Immeasurable."