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Dating is Expensive, Holy Hell!

cat_in_sf said:
I've got most of that stuff on hand. Honestly, to make tiramisu tonight all I'd need is the mascarpone. It's a give and take. I can make a nice 4-course meal for 8 for the cost of going out for 2. I made dinner (main course + dessert) for 8 on Tuesday (normal, midweek) and it cost probably less than $60. Expensive things were the fish, cream cheese, and strawberries (mmmm cheesecake). And I had lunch the next day.

The thing that gets me is the DISHES. Bleh, I hate them.
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TheRobSJ said:
Oh you silly guys, how is this even a debate? 1st date, 4th date, 20th, or married for 30 years....we all pay for it one way or the other no matter what. Be it time money or both.
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Make me dinner, I'll bring my playtex gloves and do dishes. :teeth
 
Dubbington said:
Holy balls!!!

I definitely like her as I've already built her bed, added shelves to a cabinet and planning to make her a surprise coffee table to match this amazing couch she bought.
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Dubbs, I've met you before and I actually like talking guns with you but damn man....

:|

You remind me of that over-eager gym membership salesman.
 
MikeL said:
Now Dubbs, I try not to ever hate on you, but damn man.
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watsgowinon said:
Dubbs, I've met you before and I actually like talking guns with you but damn man....

:|

You remind me of that over-eager gym membership salesman.
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You guys are just silly. None of you have sense of context. But that's understandable cuz you're not there.

After like the 4th time goin to her place and staring at the Ikea box in the middle of the room with new bed inside, I said, fuck it I'll bring my tools next time and put it together. Took 2 hours, no big deal. I didn't beg her to put it together :laughing Then one day she jokingly showed me a 5ft tall cabinet that had no shelves. I thought that was dumb and it gave me an excise to buy this new shelf hole drill jig kit. Lastly, her bday is June sooooo my plan is to make a coffee table to match the couch legs she bought. I haven't started yet since it's only been a couple months dating. If everything is going well by mid may, I'll make it.

Nothing crazy guys. Not being over eager. She actually likes how calm and go with the flow I am. All about context. You guys seem to enjoy jumping to conclusions.

I'm also a tinkerer and need to complete projects/create things often. Figured killing 2 birds fixing/making stuff for her.
 
Dubbington said:
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I'm not a cheap bastard by any stretch, just getting used spending more on food going out then I'm used to.

I definitely like her as I've already built her bed, added shelves to a cabinet and planning to make her a surprise coffee table to match this amazing couch she bought.
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Food ain't getting cheaper, that is for sure. Everything involved with food service is getting more expensive. Water, help, transportation, etc.

Will you be okay with doing these nice things for her, if things don't last long term? I think it's nice. And I have done things for ladies that I knew weren't long term. Unlike other males, apparently, it would not bother me to help. But, I am not you, of course.
 
Dubbington said:
I definitely like her as I've already built her bed, added shelves to a cabinet and planning to make her a surprise coffee table to match this amazing couch she bought.
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Dubbington said:
You guys are just silly. None of you have sense of context. But that's understandable cuz you're not there.

After like the 4th time goin to her place and staring at the Ikea box in the middle of the room with new bed inside, I said, fuck it I'll bring my tools next time and put it together.
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Aaaah, you assembled her bed. Much more realistic. :thumbup
 
This thread:

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bcv_west said:
You did right, an extra $45 is the tax for being a grown-up.

As far as the rest of it, there's no timeline. My parents will hit 50 years in September, and their first date was Thanksgiving at my mom's house, they eloped 5 months later. If you start feeling like she's invading your life, pay attention to that feeling, you'll be having arguments within a year about how you spend your time. If not, good luck. And don't ask for or take advice from assholes on the internet, wtf do we know about your situation.
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What a GREAT POST! !!!

People follow the Perfect Formula and still end up divorced. Some folks get married right away and stay together forever.

I learned the hard way to not over share on the Internet, or grow MUCH thicker skin, which Dubbs possess and I do not.

G/L Dubbs.
 
Dubbington said:
You guys are just silly. None of you have sense of context. But that's understandable cuz you're not there.

After like the 4th time goin to her place and staring at the Ikea box in the middle of the room with new bed inside, I said, fuck it I'll bring my tools next time and put it together. Took 2 hours, no big deal. I didn't beg her to put it together :laughing Then one day she jokingly showed me a 5ft tall cabinet that had no shelves. I thought that was dumb and it gave me an excise to buy this new shelf hole drill jig kit. Lastly, her bday is June sooooo my plan is to make a coffee table to match the couch legs she bought. I haven't started yet since it's only been a couple months dating. If everything is going well by mid may, I'll make it.

Nothing crazy guys. Not being over eager. She actually likes how calm and go with the flow I am. All about context. You guys seem to enjoy jumping to conclusions.

I'm also a tinkerer and need to complete projects/create things often. Figured killing 2 birds fixing/making stuff for her.
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Ohhh! I knew you like to play with wood so I took your statement as you whittled a bed and various cabinetry for her like a freaking creepo. Silly me. My mistake. :thumbup
 
So I had an OK Cupid girl over last night. She was cute and has a great rack but was pretty in shape too despite being top heavy...anyway, date cost me virtually nothing in terms of some snacks and she brought over a sweet bottle of wine. We hit it off like crazy good and ended up in bed and then she left. Dating doesn't have to be expensive.
 
HappyHighwayman said:
So I had an OK Cupid girl over last night. She was cute and has a great rack but was pretty in shape too despite being top heavy...anyway, date cost me virtually nothing in terms of some snacks and she brought over a sweet bottle of wine. We hit it off like crazy good and ended up in bed and then she left. Dating doesn't have to be expensive.
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HappyHighwayman said:
So I had an OK Cupid girl over last night. She was cute and has a great rack but was pretty in shape too despite being top heavy...anyway, date cost me virtually nothing in terms of some snacks and she brought over a sweet bottle of wine. We hit it off like crazy good and ended up in bed and then she left. Dating doesn't have to be expensive.
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Monica.
 
HappyHighwayman said:
So I had an OK Cupid girl over last night. She was cute and has a great rack but was pretty in shape too despite being top heavy...anyway, date cost me virtually nothing in terms of some snacks and she brought over a sweet bottle of wine. We hit it off like crazy good and ended up in bed and then she left. Dating doesn't have to be expensive.
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Thats having a one night stand, not dating. Girls want sex too and don't need to be wined and dined if they just want to get some that night.

Let me know when you hit the 2 month mark with her and if you're still just banging and eating cheezits and drinking Andre champagne.
 
Dubbington said:
Thats having a one night stand, not dating. Girls want sex too and don't need to be wined and dined if they just want to get some that night.

Let me know when you hit the 2 month mark with her and if you're still just banging and eating cheezits and drinking Andre champagne.
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Haha. +10
 
Dubbington said:
Thats having a one night stand, not dating. Girls want sex too and don't need to be wined and dined if they just want to get some that night.

Let me know when you hit the 2 month mark with her and if you're still just banging and eating cheezits and drinking Andre champagne.
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:applause :thumbup
 
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