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Dating is Expensive, Holy Hell!

What is truly odd is that our family finaly met my brothers gf



Of 3 years
 
Why would asking him to pay for what he consumed make you an asshole?
 
kevin 714 said:
You've been dating a chick for 2 months and she's met your family
"several times"?



Dafuq
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Guess family is not important to you or you're not close wth yours? I live across the street from my little sister and her kids. My parents are 7 minutes away too, Sunday dinners. Girl I date has to be ok with that. She's a strong girl and dug meeting everyone.
 
Abacinator said:
Why would asking him to pay for what he consumed make you an asshole?
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It was the 1st dinner out with friends. First time meeting her friends. The guy quickly put his $$ in before anything could be said. Seemed like an asshole move to call him out I thought. Embarrass him too it would have. Maybe if I knew him better. I was pretty shocked really.
 
Date or not, why let someone take advantage of you? Be alpha, call him out if it bothers you.
 
Dubbington said:
It was the 1st dinner out with friends. First time meeting her friends. The guy quickly put his $$ in before anything could be said. Seemed like an asshole move to call him out I thought. Embarrass him too it would have. Maybe if I knew him better. I was pretty shocked really.
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Yeah, no.

He's the asshole for not forking over his fair share of the bill. You messed up.
 
I've been situation where 6 came to dinner without even enough money.

very awkward when the bill came.

I covered the bill but told them only on the condition they would be buying me drinks for as long as a knew me.
 
Dubbington said:
Guess family is not important to you or you're not close wth yours? I live across the street from my little sister and her kids. My parents are 7 minutes away too, Sunday dinners. Girl I date has to be ok with that. She's a strong girl and dug meeting everyone.
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Its still weird.
 
Dubbington said:
Guess family is not important to you or you're not close wth yours? I live across the street from my little sister and her kids. My parents are 7 minutes away too, Sunday dinners. Girl I date has to be ok with that. She's a strong girl and dug meeting everyone.
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I live 5 mins away from my parents and call my mother every day after work

I moved in with my brother help support him and his kids went he went through a bad divorce.

Why you'd being a girl you hardly know into your family sphere that fast and that in depth is beyond me. It's has nothing to do with being
A "strong girl" whatever that means lol


2 months in, you have no idea who this women is and she's like half your fiancé Alresdy lol
 
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Girl has met whole family already.

Seen her man not stand up for himself when confronted with an unfair monetary situation.

And that's just what we know.

I feel like this chick is holding all the keys right now.
 
Seen her man Alresdy spend less on his own interests for her


Despite prevailing wisdom, that is vastly incorrect. Girls don't like that, they like driven guys who have passions and deep seated commitments to those passions.

Giving up on those cause he thinks he needs to pay for everything is sure fire way to lose respect
 
Dubbington said:
It was the 1st dinner out with friends. First time meeting her friends. The guy quickly put his $$ in before anything could be said. Seemed like an asshole move to call him out I thought. Embarrass him too it would have. Maybe if I knew him better. I was pretty shocked really.
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You got taken advantage of, broham.
 
wazzuFreddo said:
Date or not, why let someone take advantage of you? Be alpha, call him out if it bothers you.
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Kurosaki said:
Girl has met whole family already.

Seen her man not stand up for himself when confronted with an unfair monetary situation.

And that's just what we know.

I feel like this chick is holding all the keys right now.
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:laughing:laughing Here we go. You guys are so worried bout your egos it's hilarious. I spent my spring break digging a 50 ft x 2 ft deep trench to replace my busted water line, there's no confusion in who's alpha and wearing the pants (not that it's something I'm overly concerned with or put a conscious effort in).

In the context of dinner, being new, it didn't seem appropriate to embarrass the guy and make the situation awkward. Turns out after talking to my lady, he's had issue with $$ and friends making more than him. If we go out again I'll be sure to get separate checks or itemize what we ordered.

My half serious rant was regarding how the early stages of dating is the most expensive. Research shows that too. My girl loves my hobbies and says her ex was a joke, couldn't fix anything and had no hobbies/interests.
 
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