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Dating is Expensive, Holy Hell!

I'll re-summarize this thread with now two issues:

1. Planned on $45 for sushi (apparently for two);
2. Gets a spring break????

Is it prom season already?
 
If there's one thing that scares me more than anything, it's cheap sushi.

...and I love sushi.
 
auntiebling said:
yes, but it's available at every sushi joint.

Cheap Sushi does not refer to a line item on a menue, it refers to an entire restaurant, to me
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Something called sashimi is :green. When I'm emperor of the world I will establish a sashimi tasting department before you can call it sashimi. If it's low-grade, non-fresh, poorly cut shite prepared by a bennihana-trained hack, it will be called 'cat food for humans'.
 
Well put it this way. I'd rather Dubbs was kind of a dork when it comes to dating as opposed to an abusive asshole.

I think he just leaves his computer at school logged onto BARF and his students have fun with it when he's on lunch. :)
 
Dubbington;8987626[B said:
]:laughing:laughing Here we go. You guys are so worried bout your egos it's hilarious. [/B]I spent my spring break digging a 50 ft x 2 ft deep trench to replace my busted water line, there's no confusion in who's alpha and wearing the pants (not that it's something I'm overly concerned with or put a conscious effort in).

In the context of dinner, being new, it didn't seem appropriate to embarrass the guy and make the situation awkward. Turns out after talking to my lady, he's had issue with $$ and friends making more than him. If we go out again I'll be sure to get separate checks or itemize what we ordered.

My half serious rant was regarding how the early stages of dating is the most expensive. Research shows that too. My girl loves my hobbies and says her ex was a joke, couldn't fix anything and had no hobbies/interests.
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Somehow (I don't know why) you think this is about us when we're talking about you...

What does my ego have to do with you getting steamrolled by Piggy McDoesn'tpayhistabberson and all of us pointing out that you got taken advantage of and you thinking sticking up for yourself makes YOU the asshole?

Your reputation around here for your dating life seems to be well deserved and this thread is just another reason why that is.
 
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My900ss said:
Cut out all the unrelated bullshit from your story and you will find that you get a different response.

Reading your original post and others that you have made I am of the opinion you are "cheap". What I mean is you have no idea how to spend money. Who cares how much the sushi cost you? Did you have the cash in your pocket to cover the bill? Did you have a good time with your lady? Then it was a good night... but you can't focus on the conversation, the mood of your woman and a general good time with friends. No you focus on the investment into the relation ship (10 weeks), how much you expected to budget for dinner ($45) who ordered what (sake and 6 rolls vs. 3 and 3) and who paid how much. The problem in the dinner scenario you describe is you.

I am not sure why $85 is so important to you, but you figuring out why money is such a driving factor in your life and work to either relax on the issue or earn more money may go towards you being more at ease in life.
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In general, I agree with this. I don't go out to eat with a group of friends assuming everybody is going to pay exactly what their share of the bill is. Going out with a group usually means somebody is going to pay more than they ate/drank and others are going to manage to pay less. I understand that before I even go to the dinner and if I'm that guy that has to throw more bills down to make up the difference, I don't mind. Pay the tab, enjoy the rest of the night with my lady, and remember not to invite Mr. Pigglesworth to dinner again. Lesson learned. I feel like there's a certain amount to be learned about somebody by how they act when the check comes at dinner.

But if that kinda thing bothered me (which it obviously bothered Dubbs), I would say something to the person trying to skirt the bill. I just don't get why he thinks doing so makes him the bad guy. Various ways he could have raised the issue without coming off like a jerk or 'embarrassing' Mr. Gobbleton.
 
asthmodeus said:
not sure if this has been posted as theres no goddamned way i'm reading this thread, but counting how long you've been dating someone in weeks is fucking weird as shit.
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Eh, it happens. Dude sounds like a shithead for having issues with friends making more $$ than him, but not to the point of doing anything about it (like foregoing fancy dinners he can't afford).

I'd let it slide once. I make more than most of my friends and I'm not much of a stickler so it wouldn't bother me if it were one of MY friends. But some lop who's willing to be the fifth wheel on a double date and orders enough for two but doesn't throw down his share? He's got POS written all over him and I would not go out with him again, or I'd ask for separate checks or go full caller outer and itemize the tab when it comes.

EDIT: all that said, was the dude cool? Did he contribute to e experience in a meaningful and positive way? Does he seem like someone you'd would want to hang out with again? That all would factor in, as well. Maybe you just made him SEEM like a sad sack of shit.
 
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