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Example why dating sucks and I spend $$ on myself

tzrider said:
It occurs to me that if he really wants to save time, he can have his mom mention his height the next time she's trying to hook him up. :laughing
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Just put it on his trading card, next time. I got Dubs rookie season dating card…things gonna be worth a mint soon!
 
NorCalAthlete said:
:laughing Anthony is a perfect example of height means jack shit compared to personality, and he's got that in spades.
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I have a friend who is 5'6", 5'7" at best, but he gets more girls than any of my other friends. He makes up for his height with his personality and persistence.
 
corndog67 said:
And I can see they bug her when they are around, "Where are we, the circus?"

I assume a lot of people are like this.
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Are you the guy that brags about how many people he has on his ignore list? Or is that someone else?

Part of me hopes it's you, because knowing that the guy who does, has an equally intolerant wife, would be fantastic!


I'm thinking Dubs is using his psychology degree to play with barf. His threads always touch on specific nerves and add just the right details to make them last. He's probably taking three Victorias Secret models to pound town right now, laughing at all the idiots who get roped in. At least, I'd like to think so.


This whole thread reminds me of this guy http://www.badassoftheweek.com/hayha.html, every idiot on the internet would have said you couldn't do what he did, or that being one guy against the whole Russian army made him a f*****t, and they would have been shown to be fucking retards who didn't know shit. Because the guy with skill, cleverness and understanding can make miracles happen.

Go spray them ladies with your bullets of love, shoot them right between the eyes.
 
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as a guy, its FOR SURE a numbers game.
if you had a list of 100 females you regularly hang with and talk to, one of 'em is gonna wanna do you, or is gonna have a friend who does.

maximize your exposure to maximize your returns. even if its only 1 return you desire, it takes many many failures to get to that one that works out.
 
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SpeedyCorky said:
as a guy, its FOR SURE a numbers game.
if you had a list of 100 females you regularly hang with and talk to, one of 'em is gonna wanna do you, or is gonna have a friend who does.

maximize your exposure to maximize your returns. even if its only 1 return you desire, it takes many many failures to get to that one that works out.
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I thought about this and did some mental calculations. I'm about 1 for 10. 10 dates, 1 really good date. A friend of mine is probably 9 for 10, he just kills them. I guess its all about your game. I don't have much of one, I just don't lie to them, and it seems to work.
 
corndog67 said:
I thought about this and did some mental calculations. I'm about 1 for 10. 10 dates, 1 really good date. A friend of mine is probably 9 for 10, he just kills them. I guess its all about your game. I don't have much of one, I just don't lie to them, and it seems to work.
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you have to define the results you want before going in but yes... it's always numbers. The more times you shoot the more times you score.
 
It's a number's game, but it gets easier and harder as time goes on. When you start dating all the time, you tend to have more than 1 girl lined up at a time....you have overlap, so unconsciously you are more confident knowing that if it doesn't work with one girl, you have 1,2,3 etc more in the wings. You also get comfortable enough where you feel like you're the one deciding about them more than you're trying to convince her to like you.

In terms of difficulty, well, it starts wearing on you. You get bored with the process, and it's not "fun" anymore.
 
Yakoo752 said:
you have to define the results you want before going in but yes... it's always numbers. The more times you shoot the more times you score.
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I didn't necessarily mean getting some, but really a good date, where we wanted to see each other again. I'd say as far as getting some, it was probably a bit higher ratio, maybe 3 out of 10.
 
HappyHighwayman said:
It's a number's game, but it gets easier and harder as time goes on. When you start dating all the time, you tend to have more than 1 girl lined up at a time....you have overlap, so unconsciously you are more confident knowing that if it doesn't work with one girl, you have 1,2,3 etc more in the wings. You also get comfortable enough where you feel like you're the one deciding about them more than you're trying to convince her to like you.

In terms of difficulty, well, it starts wearing on you. You get bored with the process, and it's not "fun" anymore.
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I've tried that, too, Jordan. Overlap. It's never worked out. Not even once. They find out about each other, and call you a slut.
 
corndog67 said:
I've tried that, too, Jordan. Overlap. It's never worked out. Not even once. They find out about each other, and call you a slut.
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I didn't mean to imply you should actually date multiple women at a time, though I have done this as well. I meant the early stages where you're just casually dating to establish if there is attraction, though there is nothing wrong with dating-dating multiple women it as long as at no time you lied about seeing them exclusively or otherwise implied monogamy. Until you have a talk defining your relationship, you can do what you like. If they break up with you because you were dating multiple women prior to defining where you stand, oh well. At least you have the other woman.

No women I have ever dated have ever found out about each other....they never run in the same circles or what-not...the odds are incredibly low...but like I said, I never hide it, I just don't discuss them with each other, that seems to lack tact and class.

In any event, it is a great source of confidence when you don't care...if a girl acts like a bitch, instead of changing your behavior, you'll more than likely not put up with it.
 

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Dubbs,

As you have seem to have done, all you can do is write it off as her hang up. It definitely sucks that people are that way, but that is why you keep trying until you find the one that clicks.

"we are all crazy, we just have to find one that compliments our own."

and for what it is worth, I am almost 6'2" barefoot....and haven't been in a relationship for about 4 or 5 years....Sorry, lost count. Granted, there has been a few dates, but nothing that lasted more than that. I would like to think I am not ugly, I know I am not fat, and blah blah blah......So, it happens to a lot of us. Just keep going
 
HappyHighwayman said:
Pretty easy, once you realize comfort with the truth is more confidence inspiring than lying. Plus it's refreshing, and an honest man never needs to keep track of the lies.
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Totally, I just never knew that if I put "Not a liar" on my dating profile, that things would work better for me. I'll have to try it out and I'll let you guys know the results. :p

FTR, I'm 100% for honesty in relationships.

Hooli:

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TheRobSJ said:
Can we all band together for Dubs and maybe pull some kind of Cyrano De Bergerac situation for him or something?
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Talk about the blind leading the blind! :laughing

HappyHighwayman said:
Pretty easy, once you realize comfort with the truth is more confidence inspiring than lying. Plus it's refreshing, and an honest man never needs to keep track of the lies.
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The truth will set you free... free time, because you don't have any dates.
 
morthrane said:
Talk about the blind leading the blind! :laughing


The truth will set you free... free time, because you don't have any dates.
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I'm not suggest brutal, useless honesty regarding everything you think and feel. I'm just saying, if you're dating multiple women, with no monogamous relationship agreement with them, if one of them broaches the topic it is best to be honest.

From there you can:
1. Agree to monogamy with her
2. Tell her you're not interested in a monogamous relationship and then:
a. break up
b. revisit the discussion at a later time.
 
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