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girlfriends riding with another guy?

I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
 
lizard said:
I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
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Is it 2006 in here?

HI DAN!
 
lizard said:
I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
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Heeyyyy you!!! :wave
 
lizard said:
I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
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Trifecta, Valgar with Epsom salts in the bathroom.
 
lizard said:
I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
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the E28 guy :cool
 
DucatiHoney said:
Doing [whatever] with someone else when she admits that she still has feelings for him ain't really cool. I'd tell her that you think so. Ultimatums aren't a good way to go, but you don't need to sit there and say nothing either. She may not know that it hurts you, so don't play games and assume she understands what's going on between your ears. I'd also tell her WHY it hurts you.

That or strap a dead fish and rub some dog poo on his exhaust pipe.
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I'm late to the party, but IMO, I agree with the above.

Hanging out with someone who she has the hots for, who also has the hots for her, in anything other than a completely group situation - not cool. If she wants to ride a bike so bad, get her own or you two go set up a riding date (not sure if you have a bike you can go on a comfortable ride with her?).

BUT, that being said, be straight forward about how it makes you feel. Don't stew on it, don't beat around the bush, don't tell her to go do whatever she wants. Tell her it bothers you, WHY it bothers you, and that it will hurt you if she decides to go do it anyways.

Her actions after that will pretty much tell you where you stand.

Not everyone is good at interpretting someone's emotional response to things (I'm HORRIBLE about it), but if someone tells me something I said/did bothers/hurt them, if I care about that person at all, I will do my best to make amends and alter my behavior in the future.

If she heads out on ride with dude and keeps on talking to him - well, "here's your sign...."
 
Honey Badger said:
Hanging out with someone who she has the hots for, who also has the hots for her, in anything other than a completely group situation - not cool. If she wants to ride a bike so bad, get her own or you two go set up a riding date (not sure if you have a bike you can go on a comfortable ride with her?).
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Don't be silly, girls don't ride!


:wow

:teeth :twofinger :later
 
JakesKTM said:
Anyone have this experience?

My current girlfriend gets a text from a dude from her past that she admittedly still has the hots for. According to her they've never consummated this mutual attraction they have for each other.

He got a new Harley and invited her for a ride. She said yes then told me he invited her. Initially I didn't want to come off as being uptight. She asked if she could borrow my helmet.

I am on the fence about cutting her loose in all honesty. I trust she wouldn't do anything other than feel him between her legs, press her tits up against his back and give him a hard on while they ride. I love her, but I feel like a doormat, AGAIN.
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This one's a little muddy. Has she ever threatened to cheat on you the past? Has she done it with anyone else in her past? Have you had a bad bad argument in the last few months? Is it just a ride and then drop off, or a longer ride with stops, lunch, etc?

I'd like to say I think I'd be ok with it, but I'd have some serious trepidation. If it were someone I'd been seeing for a year, then this would raise even more serious red flags. You don't want to come across as controlling, but the same time you don't want anything to drive a wedge into your relationship.

I think it'd be ok with you telling her that you're a little worried a out her going on a ride with a guy she admittedly is attracted to, and the general intimacy being a passenger on a bike brings.

I guess it all comes down to trust, you could say something like, "I'm a little worried about this, but I love you and I trust you." that would show that you're protective but not controlling, and you value the relationship and also have absolute trust in her.

Or you could find one of her hot friends and either low key tell them you want to give them a ride, or do something similar. That way maybe she can see how she feels when it happens to her.

Uncomfortable situation, but it just come down to trust. You can't do much but hope she sees your trust, isn't unhappy with any part of your relationship and is trying to find greener pastures, and just let shit happen.

Good luck man, this one's a little tough
 
lizard said:
I’d suggest implementing starang’s Four Elements. Oh fuck, I forgot the sink is unsearchable. Ok, let’s go with Plan B: set her up so she walks in on you going at it with a hooker.
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staRang said:
Yo mang, you're in for a treat. I'm about to let you in on "The Four Elements."

All my years of hard work, are going to pay off for you... So, let's say she's goes to the party w/ you. Well, she is, because you're going to invite her, and she's going to say yes.

What you have to do now, is gain her trust, and make her feel comfortable around you.

  • Laughter - Make her laugh. All chicks love a guy who can make them smile and laugh their asses off.
  • Share a personal story. It can be total BS, but, just make sure that she thinks that this "story" isn't something that you go around telling every/anyone. This will make her see that you are comfortable enough around her to share something that personal w/ her.
  • Alcohol. Buy her a drink, or ten. Alcohol will loosen you both up...
  • Subtle physical contact... As you're walking by her, put your hand on her shoulder/back/arm, etc. Don't grab at anything, just make it seem subtle.

Hmm, let's see... That's all I can think of right now...
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New coworker joined my team and got a desk near mine. I have a helmet hanger off the side of my desk and rode in on like her 2nd day sitting near me and she instantly asked for me to take her for a ride, if had an extra helmet, etc. I was like uhhhhh maybe...?

Definitely not my type. So probably not gonna happen. But with the general perception of a motorcycle ride being more than just a friendly kinda thing (GENERAL perception, not 100%) I don't think I want to do it.

Put it this way - asked if she rode / had any experience on bikes and she goes "Me? Oh god no come on man I'm an Asian woman I'll die if you let me ride on my own. My dad let me ride his scooter and I crashed it within a block, totaled it." : |
 
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