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girlfriends riding with another guy?

Glad things are working out with you OP. :thumbup

I know that you've had some tough periods, this one had the potential for a tough situation but sounds like things have worked out.

I would guess that some of the advice that you got in this thread probably helped out to give you confidence to address the situation in a balanced way that got you to this positive outcome.

Good luck!
 
JakesKTM said:
Update: sorry it took so long in case anyone was wondering

we have arrived at another level in our relationship.

She didn’t realize how sacred this act was and apologized. She polled her NA peeps and they basically told her she’s out of her mind to accept an invite from another dude while in a relationship, wasn’t just me being insecure. It’s really a relationship thing when it comes to couples and motorcycles, at least the NA crowd (mostly Harley people) seems to adopt a firmer stance on this unspoken norm. It’s a straight up no-no. Most people would agree with some very exceptional exceptions.

Since then we’ve been engaged in our relationship and having a great time together now that the air is cleared up.

As for the other dude, she told him no and that she is solid with me.

As a result, a married couple friends of ours are heading to MSP and have invited her to get her license with them in a few weeks. She is excited and has been riding pillion lately to get more of a feel for riding. Maybe I was misreading her enthusiasm.

Feeling solid with this woman. :love
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Fuck yeah. :cool
 
Well, the 'A' stands for anonymous, so we'll leave it at that.
 
thanks for all the advice. Some of it was brutally hard to hear and some of it sent me spinning emotionally but I kept it together until things worked themselves out.

Also the Barf OGs came OUT and represented on this thread :wow so glad you all are still around - miss all of you!
 
How old is this woman or girl? And why doesn't she think it is an issue to go out with other guys while in a relationship????

She didn't realize that going out for a ride with a guy on his motorcycle, car, or whatever is considered a date?

It would make me wonder what else she doesn't realize is wrong.
 
Sane_Man said:
How old is this woman or girl? And why doesn't she think it is an issue to go out with other guys while in a relationship????

She didn't realize that going out for a ride with a guy on his motorcycle, car, or whatever is considered a date?

It would make me wonder what else she doesn't realize is wrong.
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Hey Sane Man welcome back. We are both 52 yrs old. The difference between us is relationship experience. She hasnever been in a long term relatiinship. Never had to consider someone else. She is fierce and independent. She has overcome and transformed her life. It really took her a minute to realize it wasnt cool as she never considered it an issue. She saw it as harmless and me questioning her judgement and acting insecure and didnt see it from my perspective. So I called it off and let her sort it out. She went to her inner circle because thats where she goes when shes at a loss. They sent her right back to me after telling her its a no-no - even if its plutonic - and if she is serious about me she should see it from my point if view. She came back and apologized.
Since then we have turned a corner in the relationship that is amazing. She did the needy and sent this guyback to his woman and told him no rides and that she is solid w me. The inner circle rallied around her and now one of the married couples is taking her with them to MSP to get ther license. The inner circle is on team Jake.

She admittedly is relationship deficient but is a fast study. She has done a 180 on this and Im a happy dude!
 
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RRR70 said:
:thumbup

Best wishes.
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Plus two. Oh, man, I can't imagine having that many strangers involved in my deepest relationship. It is actually creepy to me. Some Rod Steiger, Twilight Zone, insanity to me. I would rather smoke oregano.
 
JakesKTM said:
Hey Sane Man welcome back. We are both 52 yrs old. The difference between us is relationship experience. She hasnever been in a long term relatiinship. Never had to consider someone else. She is fierce and independent. She has overcome and transformed her life. It really took her a minute to realize it wasnt cool as she never considered it an issue. She saw it as harmless and me questioning her judgement and acting insecure and didnt see it from my perspective. So I called it off and let her sort it out. She went to her inner circle because thats where she goes when shes at a loss. They sent her right back to me after telling her its a no-no - even if its plutonic - and if she is serious about me she should see it from my point if view. She came back and apologized.
Since then we have turned a corner in the relationship that is amazing. She did the needy and sent this guyback to his woman and told him no rides and that she is solid w me. The inner circle rallied around her and now one of the married couples is taking her with them to MSP to get ther license. The inner circle is on team Jake.

She admittedly is relationship deficient but is a fast study. She has done a 180 on this and Im a happy dude!
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That's what matters.

You're a patient fellow, don't require the perfect package at the start and willing to work at the relationship.

Best wishes to you both


on compatibility and chemistry ... a good 8min read:
https://markmanson.net/compatibility-and-chemistry?utm_source=facebook&utm_campaign=social-posts&utm_medium=social&utm_content=2018-10-06
 
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Right on. Relationships are hard and everyone has their own processes. I know mine won't work for others. Glad yours is working for you and your other.
 
dravnx said:
Right on. Relationships are hard and everyone has their own processes. I know mine won't work for others. Glad yours is working for you and your other.
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Well said. Glad to hear all is going well for OP. :)
 
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