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girlfriends riding with another guy?

JakesKTM said:
One question: Is it possible this dude is being friendly toward her and just wants to show off his ride?
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you don't need to find an innocent explanation/justification for why others do what they do. as long as you're not comfortable with what is about to happen, that's all that matters. express yourself
 
JakesKTM said:
Anyone have this experience?

My current girlfriend gets a text from a dude from her past that she admittedly still has the hots for. According to her they've never consummated this mutual attraction they have for each other.

He got a new Harley and invited her for a ride. She said yes then told me he invited her. Initially I didn't want to come off as being uptight. She asked if she could borrow my helmet.

I am on the fence about cutting her loose in all honesty. I trust she wouldn't do anything other than feel him between her legs, press her tits up against his back and give him a hard on while they ride. I love her, but I feel like a doormat, AGAIN.
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It appears as though you have already made your decision and this event is just the catalyst.

In all honestly if my GF said she had the hots for a guy I'd show her the door. Imagine if that was flipped around. Would she stay with you if you did the same thing?

Get out while the getting is good!

PS old junkie friends? They've totally knocked boots! Get the fuck out. Find yourself a nice gal.
 
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JakesKTM said:
Anyone have this experience?

My current girlfriend gets a text from a dude from her past that she admittedly still has the hots for. According to her they've never consummated this mutual attraction they have for each other.

He got a new Harley and invited her for a ride. She said yes then told me he invited her. Initially I didn't want to come off as being uptight. She asked if she could borrow my helmet.

I am on the fence about cutting her loose in all honesty. I trust she wouldn't do anything other than feel him between her legs, press her tits up against his back and give him a hard on while they ride. I love her, but I feel like a doormat, AGAIN.
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The guy has a Harley.:thumbup

Yeah, she's doing him.:wow
 
JakesKTM said:
One question: Is it possible this dude is being friendly toward her and just wants to show off his ride?
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AwakeNAlive said:
you don't need to find an innocent explanation/justification for why others do what they do. as long as you're not comfortable with what is about to happen, that's all that matters. express yourself
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this

does it matter? It does seem like you aren't all that secure in your relationship. So you have a few options that only you can answer.

You've already said you don't want to feel like a doormat, so you need to either shit or get off the pot.
 
I am secure with me. I have no control of someone elses decisions. I am simply vetting the consideration with like minded moto riders about letting their SO ride with nother dude.

I have no problem cutting her loose if I feel she still has feelings for another.

without being in an open relationship, which I have experinced before, is anyone out there cool with thier SO riding with a dude where there is mutual hots goin on?
 
JakesKTM said:
I am secure with me. I have no control of someone elses decisions. I am simply vetting the consideration with like minded moto riders about letting their SO ride with nother dude.

I have no problem cutting her loose if I feel she still has feelings for another.

without being in an open relationship, which I have experinced before, is anyone out there cool with thier SO riding with a dude where there is mutual hots goin on?
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This doesn't have anything to do with bikes.

And no. Not cool.

Get out now.
 
JakesKTM said:
I am secure with me. I have no control of someone elses decisions. I am simply vetting the consideration with like minded moto riders about letting their SO ride with nother dude.

I have no problem cutting her loose if I feel she still has feelings for another.

without being in an open relationship, which I have experinced before, is anyone out there cool with thier SO riding with a dude where there is mutual hots goin on?
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Hell No.

Just be aware that them knowing what you know, they would take this as tacit approval for them to do much more than go for a ride.
 
JakesKTM said:
without being in an open relationship, which I have experinced before, is anyone out there cool with thier SO riding with a dude where there is mutual hots goin on?
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There is no way that's cool in anybody's book.

If I were you I'd show up instead of the girl to this guy's Harley "riding session" and punch him in the face. Maybe take his Harley too.
 
Sounds like you've already made (the correct) decision.

I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with my fiancee riding with another dude.

However...

She should respect the fact that you're uncomfortable with the fact that she used to want to jump dude's bones, and likely still does. That she a) doesn't respect your relationship enough to know that's bad idea and b) doesn't respect your feelings enough to not do it when you tell her it makes you uncomfortable lead to this relationship not working.
 
295566 said:
Sounds like you've already made (the correct) decision.

I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with my fiancee riding with another dude.

However...

She should respect the fact that you're uncomfortable with the fact that she used to want to jump dude's bones, and likely still does. That she a) doesn't respect your relationship enough to know that's bad idea and b) doesn't respect your feelings enough to not do it when you tell her it makes you uncomfortable lead to this relationship not working.
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bingo

I wouldn't necessarily have a problem if my wife rode on the back of another dudes bike. I wouldn't necessarily have a problem if she/they both found each other attractive.

I would care if I vocalized my desires for her not to and she told me to kick rocks and did it anyways.

PS: I pretty much got divorced because of the later. My then wife maintained a friendship with an ex of hers. Every time she visited her hometown, without me, they would hangout. He was clearly interested in getting back with her and she couldn't see it. After @ 2 years of me voicing my displeasure he made a move on her, that was enough to end her friendship and eventually our relationship.
 
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