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girlfriends riding with another guy?

No, I think it is more about respecting someone else's relationship. I wouldn't invite another person's significant other to sit directly behind me on a motorcycle without at least making sure it was fine with all involved. It's a fairly intimate thing in my opinion.

I personally would think it disrespectful if someone asked a person I was in a relationship with to engage in some sort of intimate activity without determining whether or not I was comfortable with it. If you can't understand that, then I'm even more glad we don't actually know each other.
Riding on a motorcycle is an intimate activity? :wtf
 
Anyone have this experience?

My current girlfriend gets a text from a dude from her past that she admittedly still has the hots for. According to her they've never consummated this mutual attraction they have for each other.

He got a new Harley and invited her for a ride. She said yes then told me he invited her. Initially I didn't want to come off as being uptight. She asked if she could borrow my helmet.

I am on the fence about cutting her loose in all honesty. I trust she wouldn't do anything other than feel him between her legs, press her tits up against his back and give him a hard on while they ride. I love her, but I feel like a doormat, AGAIN.

Well. I don't think I would approve if it were me.
 
I am secure with me. I have no control of someone elses decisions. I am simply vetting the consideration with like minded moto riders about letting their SO ride with nother dude.

I have no problem cutting her loose if I feel she still has feelings for another.

without being in an open relationship, which I have experinced before, is anyone out there cool with thier SO riding with a dude where there is mutual hots goin on?

Fuck no. Hots or not. Telling you she has the hots for him is already bizarre. Then trying to go riding with him is simply to intentionally hurt you. This is not a woman that has any respect for you. Even if she said she would never speak to this guy you should still cut her loose. There is no way this works out.
 
Riding on a motorcycle is an intimate activity? :wtf

Isn't that basically the main question? Because if we understand english, it obviously *can* be, so the question is..is it an intimate activity for them? If so, that would seem to be a problem.
 
Is this the chic that everyone had a turn on and you met them all at the Niners game?

Dude, sack up. I'd have told her exactly what I thought prior to making a post on BARF. And then I would have made a post for entertainment purposes.
 
OP, say it aloud, “EX-GF”
Has a nice ring to it, don’t you think?
Good luck
 
Time to go.

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It would almost be better if she had hid her intentions, because then at least it would show that she has some shame but is acting on animal instinct.

The fact that she tells you she is going for that ride with Mr. Crush shows she thinks you are a pushover, and that she generally has zero respect for you. :(

I hope you were a bit brutal about kicking her to the curb.
 
i have never ridden on another dudes bike (mostly because i’m not into it), but i have gone out with other men before (close male friends). not infrequently. always tell my husband, and he has never raised any objection. if he did, i would definitely want to have a conversation with him about trust (because it would mean we’re not where i thought we were). that said - he’s my absolute top priority. and if he in any way wasn’t okay with it, i definitely would not do it.
 
Easy to embarrass yourself in these situations but a lot easier to live with yourself if you keep your dignity.
How long do you want to keep kicking the can down the road
 
18 or 19 years ago, a (married) female colleague volunteered me to take an unmarried female colleague for a ride on my Buell. I told them both I would let my wife know and if she was okay with it, the ride would be on. If not; it would not happen.

Wife said yes, the female colleague and I went for two rides, the last up 9 along Skyline. She enjoyed them both. She is now happily married, with kids, I am happily married, with an adult kid.

It was just a ride; she wanted to experience a ride on a bike.

Openness, trust and respect.

Carry on.
 
18 or 19 years ago, a (married) female colleague volunteered me to take an unmarried female colleague for a ride on my Buell. I told them both I would let my wife know and if she was okay with it, the ride would be on. If not; it would not happen.

Wife said yes, the female colleague and I went for two rides, the last up 9 along Skyline. She enjoyed them both. She is now happily married, with kids, I am happily married, with an adult kid.

It was just a ride; she wanted to experience a ride on a bike.

Openness, trust and respect.

Carry on.

with those 3 words, you nailed it right there.
 
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