Help - How has dating changed in the last 20 years?

[Climber]

I've had several guys contact me who have a relationship status of "currently separated"

Am I wrong in viewing this as a red flag? This says to me they haven't fully ended their last relationship but perhaps there are other explanations?

With people in this age group, you have to trust your instincts.
While there are people who are single for similar reasons as your own situation, there are also many people who are single for very good reasons. The good ones are taken and kept in most cases, there are a lot of people who others found that they didn't want them for a wide variety of reasons.
You'll just have to find the diamond in the rough.
One other thing to consider is that most people over 40 are pretty set in their ways and aren't going to change much, so you don't want to take on somebody hoping they'll change. They won't.

 

[Cycle61]

I've had several guys contact me who have a relationship status of "currently separated"

Am I wrong in viewing this as a red flag? This says to me they haven't fully ended their last relationship but perhaps there are other explanations?

Legal shit takes time. I was separated for a couple years before my divorce was finalized. Go with yellow flag, and make sure he's actually separated and not just fucking around.

Posting on dating sites from work while their wives are at home, so technically they're separated.

 

[carries an axe]

There truly is somebody for everybody, though ax murderers do tend to reduce their options.

 

[rodr]

I've had several guys contact me who have a relationship status of "currently separated"

Am I wrong in viewing this as a red flag? This says to me they haven't fully ended their last relationship but perhaps there are other explanations?

Yes, red flag. But so is being male.

 

[///M3lissa]

With people in this age group, you have to trust your instincts.
While there are people who are single for similar reasons as your own situation, there are also many people who are single for very good reasons. The good ones are taken and kept in most cases, there are a lot of people who others found that they didn't want them for a wide variety of reasons.
You'll just have to find the diamond in the rough.
One other thing to consider is that most people over 40 are pretty set in their ways and aren't going to change much, so you don't want to take on somebody hoping they'll change. They won't.

Thanks. I totally agree about the changing part.. that's why my ex-boyfriend is my ex. He had ample opportunity to change, said he would and then could never quite do it. I waited too long to find this out, but I guess we do shit like this when we are in love.

Legal shit takes time. I was separated for a couple years before my divorce was finalized. Go with yellow flag, and make sure he's actually separated and not just fucking around.

Thanks.. I didn't realize it could take so long. Most of the people I know in Texas who are divorced did so relatively quickly (2 - 3months).

I'm going to pass. Flags are waving at me.

 

[HappyHighwayman]

The stories women tell me about the shit men tell them....I often just go "yep, a lot of us are scum". Like women do terrible things too, but men it seems "in general" will go pretty far to get their dicks wet.

One man kept telling my friend he wasn't married and then it comes out he's separated, so she broke up with him for lying.

I know women who will date married men, so why lie?

 

[Reli]

Jason Statham has some major hair loss goin' on.......As does The Rock.

As does Travolta, but he's had one or two transplants (that look totally fake), so.....

 

[HappyHighwayman]

I thought Travolta wore wig?

 

[Reli]

Dunno, I don't keep up with celebs. But this pic has "transplant" written all over it. Unless it's that sprinkle-stuff "Toppix" or whatever its called.

 

[Reli]

EDIT: Pretty clear he's using a wig in this pic.

 

[Reli]

Looks the best in this pic, frankly:

 

[Cycle61]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AD-E2B5GfI8

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[Blankpage]

Dunno, I don't keep up with celebs. But this pic has "transplant" written all over it. Unless it's that sprinkle-stuff "Toppix" or whatever its called.

Looks like a wig also.

ERrrr there this option.

 

[///M3lissa]

Looks like a wig also.

ERrrr there this option.

Snip

My Dad sorta did that.


NO.

 

[HappyHighwayman]

Ive never seen a man look better faking he has hair over a man who cuts his hair knowing he doesn't have any.

 

[Reli]

ERrrr there this option.

Yeah only actors in fantasyland can pull off that look

 

[aminalmutha]

Dunno about the last 20 years, but at least the last 15, since BARF has been around... it's still PIIDB.

 

[amazighlol]

Dunno about the last 20 years, but at least the last 15, since BARF has been around... it's still PIIDB.

People are dating on barf?

 

[///M3lissa]

Dunno about the last 20 years, but at least the last 15, since BARF has been around... it's still PIIDB.

That took a lloooooonnnng time

 

[aminalmutha]

People are dating on barf?

One is, apparently. arty The rest are baitin'.