Last I had corresponded to her was far too long ago, months.
She seemed in good spirits...
We had always shared with each other the issues we were dealing with in the chronic pain arena. I had thought that things had gotten manageable for her.
She actually kept in more contact with me than I did with her. I suck at keeping in touch most of the time. There were not a lot of people she kept in contact with from the forum.
She left because BARF was, (or had become), "a sexist, misogynist bunch". Her. Exact. Words.
I know that I, in the past, have fallen into a 'make me a sammich' comment. Or even a 'joke' that really isn't something you'd tell a female loved one. Hell, I've had actions in my life that have been less than stellar. But, I've tried to improve that in me. I would hope that part of why Miri kept in touch with me is because of that.
The only reason I'm even coming in here to post, and breaking my abstinence until Gwynne's vacation is done is to make it clear that we, the male membership of this forum, (and the world even), can do better than be seen as "a sexist, misogynist bunch".
I hope Miri's words make us all think of our wives, or girlfriends, our mothers and grandmothers feelings. You don't know what they've been through. You may not realize what you say isn't really funny, but hurtful, demoralizing, or makes women think that you view them as second class citizens.
I'm not perfect, sometimes I don't realize I'm being an asshole. But I've tried. I am trying. And, for Miri... I'm going to try harder.
Until our energies meet again, rest well, my friend.
