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Wedding Venue Ideas? Cheap to Average

For Tahoe,

Reserve the top deck at Jimmy's At The Landing. No one ever does so it can be had for a decent price. It's blocks away from the casinos, but far away enough to have incredible views. It's definitely considered waterfront. Plus the eggs Benedict are awesome. Check it out

I would suggest having the wedding before the end of September in Tahoe. The weather is to spastic after that.right now is the best time for anything in Tahoe
 
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We did our wedding (2012) in a restaurant garden, specifically Momma Mia in Morgan Hill. It was fantastic. Could handle about 90-100 tops and cost was very reasonable and the food was EXCELLENT! Our wedding was only about 50 people and we spent about $100 per person including the facility (including linens, place settings, etc.) and the food.

We spent more for flowers, music, photos, etc and we spent about $12k on 2 weeks in Italy for the honeymoon rented a motorcycle (attended F1 race at Monza and MotoGP at San Marino) it was a total blast and worth every penny.

IMO, spending $40k for a party is asinine waste of cash unless you have the cash to burn.

If you are over about 25, the wedding should be 100% your fiscal responsibility IMO.

My youngest (23) got married Memorial Day weekend this year. We spent $15k on the entire thing for about 65 total attendees. We rented the Bear Creek Inn in Merced for Thursday, Friday and Saturday. Had to be out by 10am Sunday. Sleeps about 15 people and included breakfast.

Just a couple of ideas.
 
Got married on a beach in thassos greece. Spent 2 weeks in Greece and a week in Germany for $10,000...including flights and hotels. Realistically it would probably cost about 15, have family in both countries that hooked us up a bit. Regardless, beats getting married somewhere you drive by every so often imo.
 
Holly wow, ballers above. I Wish I had that kind of money instead of spending it on rent or dawn payment (sick)



Got married on a beach in thassos greece. Spent 2 weeks in Greece and a week in Germany for $10,000...including flights and hotels. Realistically it would probably cost about 15, have family in both countries that hooked us up a bit. Regardless, beats getting married somewhere you drive by every so often imo.

^^^ dang what a good idea
 
Another +1 for eloping, or travel somewhere exotic for a week or two and use that money for your own personal memories. Maybe invite a small handful of those closest to you. You can book an amazing trip for <$10k.
 
Some of the nicer venues I've been to.
St. Francis Hotel, San Francisco
Deer Park Villa, Fairfax
Marin Arts and Garden Center, San Anselmo
Stinson Beach - wedding was on the beach (Seadrift side) reception was @ the Stinson Beach Community Center.
Mendocino, town - ceremony was on a bluff over the looking the ocean and reception was at a hotel.
 
Remember everyone already has a generic prenup in the State law if is called Family Law and it is written in a way that requires lits of lawyers and Judges to negotiate.

Eloping is a viable option.

Ambush weddings are fun too. Have a party with all your friends and a wedding happens!
 
Buddy just got married in France right on a lake. Ridiculous views rivaling Tahoe, and it was a place he stumbled upon while on a trip there with his now-wife.

City was called Annecy (some of you better-traveled BARFers may have heard of it; I hadn't).

Here's the spot:
https://www.facebook.com/palacedeme...kM-4VUIZFr1UHkHMvCwIkfPHSRYtYD1JQ&pnref=story

http://www.palacedementhon.com/

Pretty epic wedding overall and I don't think it cost him all that much. Most of the extended family was spread out across Europe / Asia so it was easier for them to get to France than the US, but if you're looking at destination weddings you could do a lot worse.
 
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We got married at the Swedish American hall, reception in cafe du nord below it. If there hadn't been Parents To Please, we likely would have done the entire thing in the cafe (it's a bar) it has since been remodeled, don't know what the cafe looks like anymore. The cafe is, was, independently run from the Swedish hall, at the time the food was quite good. We brought in our own "cake" of cupcakes. Wedding cakes are also a massive scam btw. So are cupcakes

Anyway
Other things to consider for ST weddings are the tangent logistics. Parking sucks, lodging is expensive, traffic getting into ST on weekends is sometimes formidable for those planning to come last minute. More than a few friends missed the ceremony (it was short, really short) because of unexpected traffic. I out the PITA factor on par with Tahoe honestly.

No matter where you have it DO NOT do an open bar. Not fully at least. Some idiot relative on your wife's side will "buy you a drink" and it'll be top shelf, and all you'll be able to think is "great, just bought myself a shot I have to do with this person I don't even like

Don't invite coworkers, unless they're from 3 jobs ago and you're still friends.

If you're paying, only invite people you actually want to attend. Your in-laws friends from kindergarten that your fiancee hadn't met? Ever? Fuck am.

For an SF wedding, for 40k, you will be doing a LOT yourself.

A Day Of Wedding planner assistant was well worth it btw. Encourage guests to mail gifts instead of bringing
 
We rented a Hornblower "yacht" for 75 people. The captain said the things, and then we motored around the bay and under the bridges and across to marin little. There was open bar and shrimpy snacky stuff, no dinner. 3 piece band played. We were back at 5 or 6 and everyone ended up at zeitgiest, others went to dinner venue of their choice. All about $10g.

Some folks still say it was their favorite wedding ever, including me!
 
Get married on a nearby beach , park, etc. You can go revisit the spot anytime you want to.

Fuck "venues" and their prepackaged cookie cutter packages.

If you get married on the beach make sure the bride gets her own porta potty. Let her feel like a princess for that one day.

PORTAPOTTYWEDDING.jpeg
 
I have no advice to offer. Wife and I eloped to S. Lake Tahoe. I think it was about $75. That was 10 yrs ago...rather spend money on a trip and a house.
 
$50k for a day is completely bananas, unless you're a billionaire.

I have good things to say about eloping with a dozen close friends and family, and about city hall + restaurant for the legal component and the folks who couldn't make it.
 
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