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Why Women Need To Compliment and Throw Parties?

Dubbington said:
These are Two among many questions I have. Growing up with sisters and working in the schools I see A LOT of interesting female behavior.

1) Why do women seem to HAVE to compliment each other?

I hear it daily. 'Oh your boots are soooo cute', 'I love that color on you'. This happens daily when teachers and staff run into each other before greeting. Why is it necessary? Even some female friends and staff compliment me on my ties or shirt I'm wearing and aside from thank you I dont know how to respond. Are they looking for it in return? I just think its silly. Maybe it's subconsciously letting the other person know you are aware of them.
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So, you've never told another guy "Hey, nice car!" or, "Hey, nice bike!"? Same thing.


Dubbington said:
2) Why do women HAVE to throw parties?

Parties and events, why do they have to be huge productions? This could just be my family/sisters thing. My niece's 1st b-day there were 70+ people (lots of lil kids) but invitations were sent months in advance, decorations, food etc. The whole evite thing REALLY bothers the shit out of me. I just may be 100% sagittarius though.

My sister had a jewelry party. She makes nice necklaces and what not. Sent out invitations, many RSVPd they were coming. She spent her entire friday and Saturday getting ready, making fancy desserts, spending 100s of $$ and what happens....4 girls show up and my sister was crushed/pissed.

I was thinking guy wise, we would NEVER have a jewelry party equivalent. In my mind thats basically saying 'come over and feel forced to buy something and give me money'.
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Nah, guys throw parties too... ever watch superbowl or some other sporting event at a friend's place? Split the cost of Pay-Per-View with a couple of friends to watch the fight? It may not be as elaborate as the women's parties, but it still happens.

That, or maybe, you're just anti-social? :twofinger
 
mototireguy said:
Her motorcycle rack right?

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No the rack that she was carrying in her hands.

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Hoho said:
So, you've never told another guy "Hey, nice car!" or, "Hey, nice bike!"? Same thing.




Nah, guys throw parties too... ever watch superbowl or some other sporting event at a friend's place? Split the cost of Pay-Per-View with a couple of friends to watch the fight? It may not be as elaborate as the women's parties, but it still happens.

That, or maybe, you're just anti-social? :twofinger
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The nice bike and car thing is close but I'm talking about a daily occurrence.

Regarding fights and superbowl parties....kinda. But say I'm a woodworker, I'm not having my buddies over to chit chat and try and sell them the bowls I made.
 
Using generalizations; men shake hands for a first impression of friendship as the Romans did to inspect the counterpart's forearm for weapons. Women do the same with compliments.

Woman throw parties because,
1) They're generally civilized and social folk.
2) Networking. Women can work a network like nobody's business. Need a toilet unclogged? Men are stupid enough to do it themselves. Women will know of someone that can do better, cheaper, and use that time to get back to the party.

Those are just generalizations as anyone that knows Berto knows that he's all about the parties and more networked than a *$ barista. No comment on the dildo parties.
 
Dubbington said:
The nice bike and car thing is close but I'm talking about a daily occurrence.
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Same thing as "nice watch" or something... it's just that men typically have less stuff on their person for you to notice.

Dubbington said:
Regarding fights and superbowl parties....kinda. But say I'm a woodworker, I'm not having my buddies over to chit chat and try and sell them the bowls I made.
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That's true... but networking is an awesome way to get your shit noticed and sold.

EDIT: CockyRooster basically said the same thing for #2.
 
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Having nice things and looking good and acknowledging it DOES
count for something. I bought my girlfriend a really expensive handbag. She brings it to important meetings and invariably it will serve as an icebreaker and before anyone knows it, she's networking with the higher-ups like crazy. It has already gotten her one job, and it may well even help me get a job (fingers crossed)
 
CABilly said:
Having nice things and looking good and acknowledging it DOES
count for something. I bought my girlfriend a really expensive handbag. She brings it to important meetings and invariably it will serve as an icebreaker and before anyone knows it, she's networking with the higher-ups like crazy. It has already gotten her one job, and it may well even help me get a job (fingers crossed)
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You know holding her bag isn't a job right?
 
I never say "thanks" to the "nice bike" comments. I didn't build it, I can only take credit for buying it.
 
My curiosity might be a result of the social media and the need to use it also a self 'complain-o-meter'.

I cant tell you how many female friends weekly, sometimes daily, have some comment about 'feel frustrated' or 'got sick again' or 'another fail for me'. Things along those lines. Or they post about how they are 'down 3 lbs woot woot'.

Clearly these are not to start up conversation. Is it strictly for attention? This shit start on myspace so what, 10 years ago? What did people do before this? It's all very odd.

I think at 32 I may not be the demographic anymore.
 
Dubs, are you seriously criticizing someone else about needing attention? :laughing
 
Who are these women you're hanging around again, Dubs? :laughing
 
CockyRooster said:
Dubs, are you seriously criticizing someone else about needing attention? :laughing
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I'm generalizing and not talking about 1 person.

I can't be the only person with a facebook feed littered with complaining or leading attention seeking bullshit. As predicted, my older sister left for Boston today despite being 33 and living at home (long story) and posts a picture of the Terminal Sign. Why? So people can see she is 'doing something'. So lame and I'm going off on tangent.

The whole facebook mentality these days is killing me. Is it mandatory to go on vacation these days and post pictures about it? Do you have to tell us you woke up, fed the kids, cleaned their rooms all before Noon? Wtf!! That's what your supposed to do as a parent. I just don't get it anymore.

Luis CK was on Conan and explained why he wont give his daughters cell phones, says kids cannot experience sadness anymore because they are always on the phone, never alone. Interesting thought.

Video Here
 
FB creates a place for people to have an audience. That's why it exists and that's just fine. You can't complain because people are using the tool for its intended purpose. :p
 
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