I feel for Melissa as it would be difficult to rejoin the single world after being out of it for so long. My post was meant to illustrate what one peer was interested in.
However, You didn't wear your reading comprehension hat.
I said that my perception is that single people in my age group are married if they are suited to it. I included myself as someone not suited. Hence my paranthetical.
Baggage is subjective. To clarify for you - I'm not interested in a woman with multiple children with different men, substance abuse issues, low education, poor financial skills, lack of class (for example gross behavior on social media).
To further clarify - I don't have children. I'm not particularly interested in having kids or spending a lot of time with them. I have zero interest in raising children for someone else or providing the financial portion of the equation. Most men in the 30-45 age group already have children If they wanted them. It isn't a total deal breaker, but in the community I reside in, you don't encounter many single women with one child, it is multiple children. Someone who makes the same mistake over and over again isn't attractive.
The pool in my community is smaller than 500 women (unless you want to add women under 20 and over 50). Take out the substance abusers, low educationers, inability to manage money and lack of class and the pool drops to maybe 50 people. I would assume a portion of the remaining would not be interested in me.
I deserve someone who doesn't abuse substances, I deserve someone who can manage their financial situation, I deserve someone who didn't make several children Outside stable situations, I deserve someone who values education, books, ideas and can behave themselves in the public realm. I don't think this translates to 18 year old virgins. I've date pretty women, ugly women and everything in between. I don't think my desires are so outrageous.
Why complicate my life? That is the reality Melissa is entering. What is she offering to a successful single man aged 25-50?
A related theory,that is often charged and controversial, is traditional Sexual Market Value. Women tend to have most of the power and choices from 16-30 and then it flips to men. The biological urges men have wane as women age, looks fade, ability to produce children fades, etc. Men can provide the same or more value at 35 or 45 as 25. Proponents of this theory often place top value for women in the early 20s and men in the mid 30s.
One could then move onto the red pill/blue pill movement that appears to be gaining steam in the US.
