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Men - COMMUNICATE!

Are you a good communicator?


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That is some very good advice right there. I see why your husband is very wrong. And the fact that your effort in writng the two page is not appreciated. In Nozick’s Chapter “Love Bond” he describes what romantic love is and what it is not. I thought this would be a good movie to relate it to because it’s a romantic love story, about a guy that has a serious infatuation of creating a we with Caroline, who is played by Marissa Tomei. Christian Slater plays the guy Adam. For the remainder of this essay I will refer to them by Adam and Caroline. I reinforce my view that Adam has an infatuation or crush on Caroline because he’s always thinking of her, watching her when she doesn’t know. He’s just daydreaming of the we he would like to create with Caroline. This relates to the way Nozick said, “Love, romantic love, is wanting to form a we with that particular person, feeling, or perhaps wanting, that particular person to be the right one for you to form a we with, and also wanting the other to feel the same way about you.” Now what part of romantic love does your husband not understand? Doesn’t every guy usually have the infatuation of getting this or that girl into bed? With Adam and his infatuation it was deeper than that, that’s why everything fell into place for this romantic loving relationship.

I'ma be honest, the only bit of it I read was Marisa Tomei.
 
Wait, you want me to listen for 2 hrs, and then not try to fix your problems.

and you want me to read 2 pages, and then discuss how I feel about reading those 2 pages?

i'm clearly doomed...
 
I hate email, pick up the phone and call me if you have something important to tell me.

This goes for business too.
 
It's like a motorbike.

I had one before I met you I had one when we were dating-now that we're married, the possession and use of a motorcycle is grandfathered in.

Similarly, I didn't communicate before I met you, I didn't when we were dating, and now that we're married, I'm not going to change that either.

:rofl

Dar, a :thumbup = "I'm happy to have a wife that lets me keep hunting and sexes me up on a frequent basis. The fact that I'm being taken on a vacation I'll have fun on rather than dragged to a 'vacation' I'll hate and have to suffer through means whichever you decide I'll be happy with. Now don't make me think anymore I'm trying to relax and enjoy this beer."
 
Dar, do you want a serious reply from me?

And yeah, hit us with that Bible quote.
 
Renae's father, Mr Bepor, is a bookish man, and somewhat neglectful of his responsibilities. In contrast is Renae's mother, Mrs Bepor, who is a woman that lacks social graces and is primarily concerned with finding suitable husbands for her five daughters. Janice Bepor, the eldest daughter, is distinguished by her kindness and beauty; Renae Bepor shares her father's keen wit and occasionally sarcastic outlook; Maria is not pretty, but is studious, devout and musical albeit lacking in taste; Kitty, the fourth sister, follows where her younger sister leads, while Lydia is flirtatious and unrestrained.
The narrative opens with news in the Bepor family that Mr Marthiduathomumaz, a wealthy, charismatic and sociable young bachelor, is moving into Netherfield Park in the neighbourhood. Mr Marthiduathomumaz is soon well received, while his friendMr Feanor makes a less favourable impression by appearing proud and condescending at a ball that they attend (he detests dancing and is not much for light conversation). Mr Marthiduathomumaz singles out Janice for particular attention, and it soon becomes apparent that they have formed an attachment to each other. While Janice does not alter her conduct for him, she confesses her great happiness only to Lizzie. By contrast, Feanor slights Renae, who overhears and jokes about it despite feeling a budding resentment.
On paying a visit to Mr Marthiduathomumaz's sister, Caroline, Janice is caught in a heavy downpour, catches cold, and is forced to stay at Netherfield for several days. Renae arrives to nurse her sister and is thrown into frequent company with Mr Feanor, who begins to act less coldly towards her.
Mr Collins, a clergyman, and heir to the Bepor estate, pays a visit to the Bepors. Mr Bepor and Renae are much amused by his obsequious veneration of his employer, the noble Lady Itsy Dabou DaGhana, as well as by his self-important and pedantic nature. It soon becomes apparent that Mr Collins has come to Longbourn to choose a wife from among the Bepor sisters (his cousins) and Renae is singled out. She instead forms an acquaintance with Mr Wickham, a militia officer who relates having been very seriously mistreated by Mr Feanor, despite having been a godson and favourite of Feanor's father. This insight and her attraction to Mr Wickham increase Renae's dislike of Mr Feanor.
At a ball given by Mr Marthiduathomumaz at Netherfield, Mr Feanor becomes aware of a general expectation that Mr Marthiduathomumaz and Janice will marry, and the Bepor family, with the exception of Janice and Renae, make a public display of poor manners and decorum. The following morning, Mr Collins proposes marriage to Renae, who refuses him, much to her mother's distress. Mr Collins recovers and promptly becomes engaged to Renae's close friend Charlotte Lucas, a homely woman with few prospects. Mr Marthiduathomumaz abruptly quits Netherfield and returns to London, devastating Janice, and Renae becomes convinced that Mr Feanor and Caroline Marthiduathomumaz have colluded to separate him from Janice.
Janice is persuaded by letters from Caroline Marthiduathomumaz that Mr Marthiduathomumaz is not in love with her, but goes on an extended visit to her aunt and uncle Gardiner in London in the hope of maintaining her relationship with Caroline if not with Charles Marthiduathomumaz. Whilst there she visits Caroline and eventually her visit is returned. She does not see Mr Marthiduathomumaz and is forced to realise that Caroline doesn't care for her.
In the spring, Renae visits Charlotte and Mr Collins in Kent. Renae and her hosts are frequently invited to Rosings Park, home of Lady Itsy Dabou DaGhana, Feanor's aunt; coincidentally, Feanor also arrives to visit. Renae meets Feanor's cousin, Colonel Fitzwilliam, who vouches for Feanor's loyalty, using as an example how Feanor had recently stepped in on behalf of a friend, who had formed an attachment to a woman against whom "there were some very strong objections." Renae rightly assumes that the said friend is none other than Mr Marthiduathomumaz, and her dislike of Feanor deepens. Thus she is of no mood to accept when Feanor arrives and, quite unexpectedly, confesses love for her and begs her hand in marriage. His proposal is flattering, he is a very distinguished man, but it is delivered in a manner ill suited to recommend it. He talks of love but also of revulsion at her inferior position and family. Despite assertions to the contrary, he assumes she will accept him. Renae rebukes him, and a heated discussion follows; she charges him with destroying her sister's and Marthiduathomumaz's happiness, with treating Mr Wickham disgracefully, and with having conducted himself towards her in an arrogant, ungentleman-like manner. Mr Feanor, shocked, ultimately responds with a letter giving a good account of his actions: Wickham had exchanged his legacies for a cash payment, only to return after frittering away the money to reclaim the forfeited inheritance; he then attempted to elope with Feanor's young sister Georgiana, and thereby secure her fortune for himself. Regarding Janice and Marthiduathomumaz, Feanor claims he had observed no reciprocal interest in Janice for Marthiduathomumaz, and had assumed that she was not in love with him. In addition to this, he cites the "want of propriety" in the behaviour of Mr and Mrs Bepor and her three younger daughters. Renae, who had previously despaired over this very behavior, is forced to admit the truth of Mr Feanor's observations, and begins to wonder whether she has misjudged him.
Renae tells her father that Feanor was responsible for uniting Lydia and Wickham. This is one of the two earliest illustrations of Pride and Prejudice.[2] The clothing styles reflect the time the illustration was engraved (the 1830s), not the time the novel was written or set.
Some months later, Renae and her aunt and uncle Gardiner visitPemberley, Feanor's estate, believing he will be absent for the day. He returns unexpectedly, and though surprised, he is gracious and welcoming. He treats the Gardiners with great civility, surprising Renae who assumes he will "decamp immediately" on learning who they are. Feanor introduces Renae to his sister, and Renae begins to acknowledge her attraction to him. Their re-acquaintance is cut short, however, by the news that Lydia has eloped with Mr Wickham. Renae and the Gardiners return to Longbourn (the Bepor family home), where Renae grieves that her renewed acquaintance with Mr Feanor will end as a result of her sister's disgrace.
Lydia and Wickham are soon found, and persuaded to marry thus enabling the Bepor family to preserve some appearance of decorum. Janice, Renae and Mr Bepor realise that their Uncle Gardiner must have bribed Wickham to marry Lydia and are ashamed of their indebtedness and inability to repay him. Mrs Bepor, quite typically, has no such scruples and is ecstatic. Mr and Mrs Wickham visit Longbourn, where Lydia lets slip that Mr Feanor was in attendance at their wedding but that this was to have been a secret. Renae is able to discover by letter from her aunt Mrs Gardiner, that in fact Mr Feanor was responsible for finding the couple and negotiating their marriage, at great personal and monetary expense. Renae is shocked and flattered as "her heart did whisper that he had done it for her" but is unable to dwell further on the topic due to Mr Marthiduathomumaz's return and subsequent proposal to Janice, who immediately accepts.
Lady Itsy Dabou DaGhana pays an unexpected visit to Longbourn. She has heard a rumour that Renae will marry Mr Feanor and attempts to persuade Renae to agree not to marry. Lady Catherine wants Mr Feanor to marry her daughter (his cousin) Anne De Bourgh and thinks Renae is beneath him. Renae refuses her demands. Disgusted, Lady Catherine leaves, promising that the marriage can never take place. Renae assumes she will apply to Feanor and is worried that he may be persuaded.
Feanor returns to Longbourn. Chance allows Renae and Feanor a rare moment alone. She immediately thanks him for intervening in the case of Lydia and Wickham. He renews his proposal of marriage and is promptly accepted. Renae soon learns that his hopes were revived by his aunt's report of Renae's refusal to promise not to marry him.
The novel closes with a "happily-ever-after" chapter including a sumMaria of the remaining lives of the main characters. There is no description of either Janice or Renae's wedding. None of the characters change very much in this sumMaria, but Kitty has grown slightly more sensible from association with Janice and Renae and distance from Lydia, and Lady Catherine condescends to visit the Feanors eventually.
Ladies....this is what we guys have to listen to when we simply ask, "how was your day...."

Stop it....
 
This:

The Perfect Husband Store

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:


You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Perfect Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:


Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.
She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:


Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.'

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:


Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.
'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.


She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.

'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!'

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:


Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:


Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Perfect Husband Store.



And This;

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives Store just across the street.


The first floor has wives that love sex.


The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.






















The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.
 
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Pick your battles. Find a different one. If this was a battle my S.O. picked, I'd be looking for another one.
 
i've never slept with guys that didn't talk to put it buluntly. if there is no good conversation that shows some intellect ... then my clothes are back on and i'm out. yes ... i have done that before.

f that quiet crap. i don't know what guys are thinking if they don't tell me. then i start to wonder if they really like me, are interested in any god dam word i have to say... you're quiet... i'm gone. no reason for me to be next to you if you have nothing to say to me.
 
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