Men - COMMUNICATE!

[MikeL]

i've never slept with guys that didn't talk to put it buluntly. if there is no good conversation that shows some intellect ... then my clothes are back on and i'm out. yes ... i have done that before.

f that quiet crap. i don't know what guys are thinking if they don't tell me. then i start to wonder if they really like me, are interested in any god dam word i have to say... you're quiet... i'm gone. no reason for me to be next to you if you have nothing to say to me.

Sometimes I have nothing to say. Seriously. My mind is constantly thinking of nothing. I enjoy it. If I want intelligent conversation I'll bring up a topic. But if I'm laying on the bed looking at the ceiling, I'm probably thinking about the important things. Like which flavor ice cream I shall consume in the evening.

 

[MrIncredible]

I told the missus that I'll listen more if she improves her signal to noise ratio.

Why can't you just pick where to go hunting, Dar?

 

[Godsdarling]

This:

And This;

I'm the perfect wife, who knew!

Dar, a = "I'm happy to have a wife that lets me keep hunting and sexes me up on a frequent basis. The fact that I'm being taken on a vacation I'll have fun on rather than dragged to a 'vacation' I'll hate and have to suffer through means whichever you decide I'll be happy with. Now don't make me think anymore I'm trying to relax and enjoy this beer."

Thank you for the translation! You are better than google for sure! I have to keep you around to translate for me too!

Dar, do you want a serious reply from me?

And yeah, hit us with that Bible quote.

hit me with your best shot but this was all in fun, men are mars and women are venus type of thing. Not that I read the book or anything

 

[Godsdarling]

Why can't you just pick where to go hunting, Dar?

because if I make the plans he always has to change it. every single time. it is a compulsion for him. Has become a joke with the family

 

[MrIncredible]

i've never slept with guys that didn't talk to put it buluntly. if there is no good conversation that shows some intellect ... then my clothes are back on and i'm out. yes ... i have done that before.

f that quiet crap. i don't know what guys are thinking if they don't tell me. then i start to wonder if they really like me, are interested in any god dam word i have to say... you're quiet... i'm gone. no reason for me to be next to you if you have nothing to say to me.

If I wanted you to know what I was thinking I'd tell you.

Why can't you just ask "Hey-do you like me?" if you want to know.

Or just appreciate the zen of being in the moment-not everything has to be stated, quantified and planned on, except maybe for BBQ and liquor.

 

[Mike95060]

Dave, you sure have had a lot to say in this thread. STFU already and go get something done in the garage.

 

[MrIncredible]

But I don't know which car I'm supposed to work on and the wife hasn't told meeeee


I can only work nights-I has the munchkins during the day.

 

[planegray]

Dave, you sure have had a lot to say in this thread. STFU already and go get something done in the garage.

you READ that stuff ?



( mr inedible )

 

[MrIncredible]

you READ that stuff ?



( mr inedible )

Only since I got married :|

 

[planegray]

Only since I got married :|

Dar probably has some advice for you

 

[vio]

Sometimes I have nothing to say. Seriously. My mind is constantly thinking of nothing. I enjoy it. If I want intelligent conversation I'll bring up a topic. But if I'm laying on the bed looking at the ceiling, I'm probably thinking about the important things. Like which flavor ice cream I shall consume in the evening.

I enjoy silence as well... don't get me wrong. Loud people are annoying. But there is a point where there is too much silence. That I don't enjoy. And if you put me down for talking to you ... then yea.. that hurts and I feel like leaving. Takes energy and effort on my part to make time to communicate. I'm busy.. I work all day and have very little time for social activities. So when I come home to my SO, yea... I wanna talk about something nice .. to lift my spirits and like listening to his stories. What am I suppose to do.. go and start washing fucking dishes day in and day out... sit quietly like loner in the bedroom by myself. Why did I get married. My husband is my best friend. A best friend wont want you silent and put you down for opening up to them, even if it's a dumb ass subject.

If I wanted you to know what I was thinking I'd tell you.

Why can't you just ask "Hey-do you like me?" if you want to know.

Or just appreciate the zen of being in the moment-not everything has to be stated, quantified and planned on, except maybe for BBQ and liquor.

Not saying much to someone implies a lot of things. I don't just come out like retard and ask .. what .. I'm 5 years old, and ask like a grade school child ...
"Dooo you like me?"" U Kidding me.

 

[packnrat]

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[MikeL]

I enjoy silence as well... don't get me wrong. Loud people are annoying. But there is a point where there is too much silence. That I don't enjoy. And if you put me down for talking to you ... then yea.. that hurts and I feel like leaving. Takes energy and effort on my part to make time to communicate. I'm busy.. I work all day and have very little time for social activities. So when I come home to my SO, yea... I wanna talk about something nice .. to lift my spirits and like listening to his stories. What am I suppose to do.. go and start washing fucking dishes day in and day out... sit quietly like loner in the bedroom by myself. Why did I get married. My husband is my best friend. A best friend wont want you silent and put you down for opening up to them, even if it's a dumb ass subject.

I'm with you on the conversation. I do get a bit annoyed when I have to "pull teeth" to get conversations going or to keep them going. Since I'm not married and I'm in the singles club, when I go on a date, if I have to force conversation I for the most part don't go on second dates. Not worth my effort if the other person isn't willing to try at all either or they are just that boring.

The women I have dated and the ones I got along with best were always the ones that were able to hold a conversation about any topic and make me smile, and I could always make them smile. It made hanging out enjoyable instead of a chore.

So I get it. But with my ex, sometime I would get home from 9 hours at work, driving 5 hours to see her and I would just want to do nothing. Not even sex sounded interesting.. I just want sleep.. or a movie.

 

[vio]

I'm with you on the conversation. I do get a bit annoyed when I have to "pull teeth" to get conversations going or to keep them going. Since I'm not married and I'm in the singles club, when I go on a date, if I have to force conversation I for the most part don't go on second dates. Not worth my effort if the other person isn't willing to try at all either or they are just that boring.

The women I have dated and the ones I got along with best were always the ones that were able to hold a conversation about any topic and make me smile, and I could always make them smile. It made hanging out enjoyable instead of a chore.

So I get it. But with my ex, sometime I would get home from 9 hours at work, driving 5 hours to see her and I would just want to do nothing. Not even sex sounded interesting.. I just want sleep.. or a movie.

I never even let a date continue if there was silence. Worst thing ever, I agree. I think you were exhousted after that much driving and working honestly. I agree that after that long of having to be up and running for so long that by the time you get home, you are much too tired to do much and want to sit and watch T.V. which I do. When I get home I need an hour or so to sit on couch and gain my strength back. And sometimes it never really comes to me and I just end up eating canned soup and sleeping.


But to me.. if husbnads want worm subsurvient silent pussy then you might as well pay me. I'm a person. I work too, I have my own character. To ask that of me is digusting.

 

[aminalmutha]

But to me.. if husbnads want worm subsurvient silent pussy then you might as well pay me. I'm a person. I work too, I have my own character. To ask that of me is digusting.

I don't think anyone (at least most? A lot? I hope... ) here is asking/demanding that. Just men don't like being brow beaten and scolded for acting like human beings.

 

[Abacinator]

 

[russ69]

...A best friend wont want you silent and put you down for opening up to them, even if it's a dumb ass subject...

My wife and I spend a lot of time together. We talk all the time, mostly about nothing. We don't have much in the way of serious talk mainly because we have all the basics covered. Dumping all the drama and trying to have a nice live together is the key for us. We don't need to add any artificial drama to our relationship because we have elderly parents and they provide plenty of worry and excitement (usually bad). Life is hard enough without injecting problems about small issues.

 

[vio]

I don't think anyone (at least most? A lot? I hope... ) here is asking/demanding that. Just men don't like being brow beaten and scolded for acting like human beings.

i'm acting like my human self too. is that wrong?

dar was talking about a fairly light subject. her husband should enjoy her company.

My wife and I spend a lot of time together. We talk all the time, mostly about nothing. We don't have much in the way of serious talk mainly because we have all the basics covered. Dumping all the drama and trying to have a nice live together is the key for us. We don't need to add any artificial drama to our relationship because we have elderly parents and they provide plenty of worry and excitement (usually bad). Life is hard enough without injecting problems about small issues.

so you're saying women talking... equates to "injecting drama"? an e-mail to your loved husband is drama?

if it's important to me then it's not artificial.

 

[kevin 714]

This.



Marriage sounds like a total nightmare of codependency, passive agression, and endless compromise

Fuck.that.noise

 

[MikeL]

i'm acting like my human self too. is that wrong?

dar was talking about a fairly light subject. her husband should enjoy her company.



so you're saying women talking... equates to "injecting drama"? an e-mail to your loved husband is drama?

if it's important to me then it's not artificial.

He never said anything about women in particular injecting drama. He said there was no need to inject drama into their relationship. Be it from him or her.