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girlfriends riding with another guy?

Yeah but the OP's girlfriend wants to bone the rider
 
DTM74 said:
Yeah but the OP's girlfriend wants to bone the rider
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My passenger was maybe 100 lbs sopping wet. I showed her various places to place her hands, suggesting she choose the one she was most comfortable with; to the rear on the seat, to the front on the tank, or around my waist; she chose the first option, would not "reach around".

Why does a bike ride have to have sexual connotations? I think mutual maturity plays a part. Generational differences perhaps?
 
Did you read the OP? Chic has the hots for the dude
 
900ss said:
18 or 19 years ago, a (married) female colleague volunteered me to take an unmarried female colleague for a ride on my Buell. I told them both I would let my wife know and if she was okay with it, the ride would be on. If not; it would not happen.

Wife said yes, the female colleague and I went for two rides, the last up 9 along Skyline. She enjoyed them both. She is now happily married, with kids, I am happily married, with an adult kid.

It was just a ride; she wanted to experience a ride on a bike.

Openness, trust and respect.

Carry on.
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Unfortunately, that doesn't sound like the OP's situation.
 
DTM74 said:
Did you read the OP? Chic has the hots for the dude
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personally speaking, just to be clear on my previous post - and because a couple of the dudes i meet up with regularly are barfers - my husband is well aware how hot i think they are. that in no way figures into his trust in me. or them.
 
littlebeast said:
personally speaking, just to be clear on my previous post - and because a couple of the dudes i meet up with regularly are barfers - my husband is well aware how hot i think they are. that in no way figures into his trust in me. or them.
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Maybe it can work for you. But...

JakesKTM said:
I think hes a douche if hes in a relationship and is taking my girlfriend out, but this mutual attraction goes back to when they were both addicts. They are both long term recovery and they share that lifestyle. Anyway she knows im hurt and I told her do what she wants/needs.


I also told her its really not possible to have closure with him until she processes what she needs to - and then by that time its probly too late. Im not stickin around you know? If I really rocked her world she wouldnt even be a considering him.
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... that's not going to end well.
 
bojangle said:
Maybe it can work for you. But...



... that's not going to end well.
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the thing is, each of us are the only one’s who know what sort of relationship we want, or we have. he knows. regardless of what any of us say, he will do what his heart compels him to do. and that is exactly how it should be.

OP - the best advice i can give is be true to yourself, and follow your heart. if she breaks it, she wasn’t worthy of you to begin with.
 
900ss said:
My passenger was maybe 100 lbs sopping wet. I showed her various places to place her hands, suggesting she choose the one she was most comfortable with; to the rear on the seat, to the front on the tank, or around my waist; she chose the first option, would not "reach around".

Why does a bike ride have to have sexual connotations? I think mutual maturity plays a part. Generational differences perhaps?
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Be honest, you thought about it didn't you?
 
JakesKTM said:
I think hes a douche if hes in a relationship and is taking my girlfriend out, but this mutual attraction goes back to when they were both addicts. They are both long term recovery and they share that lifestyle. Anyway she knows im hurt and I told her do what she wants/needs.


I also told her its really not possible to have closure with him until she processes what she needs to - and then by that time its probly too late. Im not stickin around you know? If I really rocked her world she wouldnt even be a considering him.
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Isn't this^ all you really need to know?


Riders have some attraction to risky behavior but 'manage' those risks. That she's an addict shows that she's not good at managing risk.

It sounds like she could be trying to get her 'risk fix' by 'squidding' your relationship and trying to make you ride 'bitch' while she does that.
 
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Why are people comparing a platonic ride to two people who want to bang each other going on a ride. I've ridden in both situations, they're DIFFERENT
 
MysterYvil said:
Riding on a motorcycle is an intimate activity? :wtf
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Big difference between riding on a motorcycle and riding behind someone on their motorcycle. And yes, I do consider that to be a fairly intimate activity.

I'd have no issue with my gf riding motorcycles with guys. She used to all the time before she stopped riding. Going for a ride on the back of some guy's bike that she has the hots for, yes I see that as different.

Let's put it in perspective. Are you going to take your male friend on a ride on your new bike? What if he thinks you are hot? I'm no asking you Mr Evil. I know you'd be all like "Of course I would. Then we'd go have wild sex with random people because I'm a pornstar."
 
I would also refer to man as a woman’s man it’s not about owning them. Are you allowed to say “my wife”? “My husband”? “My friend”?
 
Bubba_s said:
Why are people comparing a platonic ride to two people who want to bang each other going on a ride. I've ridden in both situations, they're DIFFERENT
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Brokenlink said:
Big difference between riding on a motorcycle and riding behind someone on their motorcycle. And yes, I do consider that to be a fairly intimate activity.

I'd have no issue with my gf riding motorcycles with guys. She used to all the time before she stopped riding. Going for a ride on the back of some guy's bike that she has the hots for, yes I see that as different.

Let's put it in perspective. Are you going to take your male friend on a ride on your new bike? What if he thinks you are hot? I'm no asking you Mr Evil. I know you'd be all like "Of course I would. Then we'd go have wild sex with random people because I'm a pornstar."
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So without the motorcycle element to facilitate the banging, the banging won't happen?
 
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